(Closed) Difficult plus one question, help please!

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2259 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Don’t feel bad. That’s my best advice. Sounds like it would be WAY more awkward for everyone if this girl attended the wedding instead of just entertaining herself for a few hours. 

I would leave it up to the people involved. If they really wanted her at the wedding, you probably would hear about it sooner or later. If not, assume they’re okay with how things are planned this far. 

EDIT: or…. just extend a general invite and leave it up to them. They may still choose to opt out. 

Post # 4
3318 posts
Sugar bee

I think given that this is your FI’s really good friend you should invite her to the wedding. 

But etiquette says you do not have to invite anyone who is not part of a social unit to the wedding.  So really it is up to you. 


Post # 5
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Personally, my mindset would be “if they ask, I’ll deal with it then”. You said neither one has actually asked for her to come. They may have just accepted that he misundersood/forgot about the +1 and she’s okay with sitting it out. Disney really isn’t that bad of a place to be, even alone. Definitely a people-watching-paloza there.

Post # 6
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That’s tough.  What does your fiance think?  If it isn’t going to break your budget, I would just invite her.  She might not want to come anyway, since she won’t know many people, and the ones she does know don’t like her anyway.

Post # 7
47436 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would leave the situation as is. He did not have a plus one, and chose to invite her to come to Florida with him.

A grown woman should be able to entertain himself while he is busy with wedding duties. If he chooses not to spend all 3 days with the guys, that is his choice.


Post # 8
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sure she won’t be sitting alone in her hotel room for 3 days. Situation being what it is (cheating in marriage), I would leave it unless he specifically asks.

Post # 9
9050 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I say just leave it if he’s not making a fuss.  There’s plenty for someone to do in Disneyworld by themselves. 

Post # 10
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Leave her out! We’re having a tiny destination wedding as well and we invited several friends without plus ones and they all get it. Even when one of my good girlfriends started getting serious with her BF I’ve never met, she never asked for him to come and totally understands. He screwed up and invited her and she can find something else to do while he’s busy doing wedding stuff.

Post # 11
1756 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

She’ll be in FL in February. I seriously hope she’ll manage to find something to do.

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