Post # 1
So I have a bit of a sticky situation I need some help with. We are having a small intimate destination wedding in Disney World in February and have invited only family and a few friends that are in out bridal party, only 50 guests total. Several of my fiance’s friends who are his groomsmen are unattached are making a guys tip of the wedding-staying together, planning golfing and bar outings, etc. so we did not invite them with plus ones and they are all fine with that. However, one of these friends recently started dating someone that none of them really approve of- she is in her forties and married with children, cheating on him with/dating one my fiance’s 27 year old groomsmen. Anyways, he “forgot” he was not invited with a plus one and told her she could come with him to Florida. He then realized his mistake and told her he’s sorry she wasn’t invited and I guess she still wanted to go to Florida with him and just not attend the wedding. They have booked plane tickets and their own hotel room now, but he Rsvp’ed for only himself for the wedding as well as our Welcome Party the day before and Brunch the day after. So I feel kind of badly now that this person will be sitting alone in her hotel room for at least 3 days of the trip, but I honestly do not want someone I have never met, especially one with her morals toward marriage, at my wedding. Especially with such an intimate guest list as well. Do you think I should I do anything about this, or just let things be since the groomsmen has not complained to us about it? Thanks for any advice you can offer me!
Post # 3
Don’t feel bad. That’s my best advice. Sounds like it would be WAY more awkward for everyone if this girl attended the wedding instead of just entertaining herself for a few hours.
I would leave it up to the people involved. If they really wanted her at the wedding, you probably would hear about it sooner or later. If not, assume they’re okay with how things are planned this far.
EDIT: or…. just extend a general invite and leave it up to them. They may still choose to opt out.
Post # 4
I think given that this is your FI’s really good friend you should invite her to the wedding.
But etiquette says you do not have to invite anyone who is not part of a social unit to the wedding. So really it is up to you.
Post # 5
Personally, my mindset would be “if they ask, I’ll deal with it then”. You said neither one has actually asked for her to come. They may have just accepted that he misundersood/forgot about the +1 and she’s okay with sitting it out. Disney really isn’t that bad of a place to be, even alone. Definitely a people-watching-paloza there.
Post # 6
That’s tough. What does your fiance think? If it isn’t going to break your budget, I would just invite her. She might not want to come anyway, since she won’t know many people, and the ones she does know don’t like her anyway.
Post # 7
I would leave the situation as is. He did not have a plus one, and chose to invite her to come to Florida with him.
A grown woman should be able to entertain himself while he is busy with wedding duties. If he chooses not to spend all 3 days with the guys, that is his choice.
Post # 8
I’m sure she won’t be sitting alone in her hotel room for 3 days. Situation being what it is (cheating in marriage), I would leave it unless he specifically asks.
Post # 9
I say just leave it if he’s not making a fuss. There’s plenty for someone to do in Disneyworld by themselves.
Post # 10
Leave her out! We’re having a tiny destination wedding as well and we invited several friends without plus ones and they all get it. Even when one of my good girlfriends started getting serious with her Boyfriend or Best Friend I’ve never met, she never asked for him to come and totally understands. He screwed up and invited her and she can find something else to do while he’s busy doing wedding stuff.
Post # 11
She’ll be in FL in February. I seriously hope she’ll manage to find something to do.