(Closed) Difficulties in dealing with my sisters in law

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t know, from your description it doesn’t sound like they done anything concrete, having some kind of elusive “feeling” that they are doing something is kind of pointless. My advice is be kind and gracious and if you “feel” whatever then limit your interactions. It’s hard to say anything about boundaries because this doesn’t sound like a case where they are doing things that warrant having that discussion.

I also wouldn’t presume because they single that they don’t want their brother to be happy and that automatically makes them lonely. They may just be close with their mother.Read some post around the bee and you see some people with insane crazy hostile in laws, it will help you appreciate your relationship even it isn’t close. good luck.

Post # 4
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13251 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I get where you’re coming from, but I think you need to put aside feelings and thoughts, and either ignore it, or address it.  I doubt they don’t want their brother to be happy, but I would guess they’re adjusting to a new family dynamic where you are the most important woman in their brothers’ life, and they are trying to figure out how everything is going to work.  It can be a struggle for some people to navigate this.  Just be patient and kind to them, and I’m sure they’ll come around.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@sasi:  eh, sounds like they’re just petty and immature. I don’t think saying anything will get you very far, personally. I imagine that because they’re a pair, they likely feed on each others negative energy. You can try some one on one time and see if that improves anything or just be consistently upbeat, building a happy bubble around you so you’re not bothered. Good luck.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

“Don’t throw your pearls before swine” pretty much sums up my feelings on cultivating a realtionship. I keep thing cordial. I don’t push any friendship with her. It is, what it is. And i’m fine with that.

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