- 5 years ago
After discovering that weddings make people crazy I have come on here to find some people who are enjoying (!) the highs and lows and ask if anyone has had a similar problem with a friend, and what to do about it. Sorry about the length of the post, I just had to get it off my chest.
One of my friends has a number of issues; one of these is that she suffers from low self-esteem and to compensate always has to be centre of attention, to the extent that she flirts with every man going and says outrageous things all the time (yelling about her sex life across a crowded cafe, for example). I know that underneath it she is a sweet, kind person and when you’re with her one-on-one, calms down quite a lot.
However, it’s like she thinks my wedding is her wedding. She keeps telling me what I should wear and what flowers I should have. She wants to go to all these wedding fairs and wants to do my make-up and hair. I am doing this stuff with my mum and sister-in-law and it’s not like I want to exclude people but I want to do this with my family. I think part of the problem is that she’s not married and doesn’t have any family that she could become involved in their wedding, so she’s latched on to mine. In the middle of this is constant talk about what outrageous outfit she is going to wear, how she’s going to interrupt the speeches, how she’s going to object as a joke, etc, etc.
I am feeling a bit stressed about the wedding at the moment and all this is not helping me. When she starts I try and change the subject to something else but it doesn’t work. I feel like yelling, “This wedding is about me and my bloke, please stop trying to make it about you.” I think I’m a bad friend for thinking this but it’s driving me crazy.