(Closed) Difficulties with the male half of your bridal party getting organized??

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yeah we had to contact the groomsmen non stop. It was ridiculous. They didnt buy their ties until last minute. I kept sending them the link to the tie that they were supposed to order whenever it was on sale. It was like 50% off and I figured they would want to buy it when it was cheap! It was ridiculous!!

Post # 4
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh yeah!  I know I’m going to have to twist FI’s arm to get anything going with the tuxedos.  It’s just the name of the game.  Men are lazy!  LOL  Well they don’t care about weddings, that’s for sure.  You are not alone.

Aren’t you the bee that had some issues with groomsmen bringing their GF’s to your desination wedding?  How did you decide to handle that?

Post # 5
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

My Brother-In-Law took a very long time to get everything. It stressed my husband and I out. But since he took so long, everything had gone on sale. He ended up getting his pants for only $7…. so I guess he got lucky.

Post # 7
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Oh yeah. As of right now only one of the guys has a suit, and it’s only because my groom gave it to him and bought a new one for himself!

Post # 8
6830 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am in agreement. What is it with men and waiting til the last minute on things.  Fi’s groomsmen have not got fitted for their tux’s yet. Only men who have is Fiance and thats because I made him go and both our father’s.  Grrrr..

Post # 10
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Hm, I haven’t even given my male attendants a second thought. Maybe I should be. I figure, guys clothing can be picked out/picked up within a matter of days. Scary I know… but I just keep telling myself that so I can make my fiance deal with it. I already had so much stress with my BMs so I figure, it’s his turn to “stress” out. I think we’re going together in a few weeks to pick everything out. From there, hopefully our guys are responsible enough to get the items in time. 🙂

Post # 11
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011


I’m with you – our groomsmen haven’t done anything about suits, and Fiance just ordered tux I think it was last week. We’re having a meeting/shower in a week or so, we’re going to corner them then. Fiance and I ended up buying ties, since it was easier that way than trying to get groomsmen to pay attention. The saving grace is that it doesn’t take long to either order (rent) or buy a man’s suit and have it fitted. I think it could be done in a few days/week if it has to…

Post # 12
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Good luck with getting them moving.  I’m about 74 days out from the wedding and my groom has yet to find a suit himself let alone the groomsmen.  He keeps saying it’s not going to take long to do, so why do I need to do it so early.  Ugg guys, they don’t seem to understand that things can sometimes take time….

Post # 14
41 posts
  • Wedding: May 2011

@mrs.peters.to.be:  So have they decided yet? 


I feel your pain, I’m in a similar boat but it is my Fiance that is driving me nuts.  We’ve been looking at tuxedos & suits for 11 months now and with 8 weeks till we leave for our Destination Wedding, we still haven’t ordered a tux / bought a suit for any of them!  I’m stressed to the max about it and ready to shoot my Fiance.

2 months ago after spending 9 months finding a suitable vest / tie special enough for him he came out of left field and decided he wanted a suit instead.  This is after going off on me about “how it is his day too and he deserved a tuxedo” when I suggested maybe suits would be easier with a destination wedding.  Ugh.  He then spent a weekend with his groomsman suit shopping (10 hrs in total) and found NOTHING they liked.  So then he was thinking about ordering custom suits online for himself and the groomsmen.  Went as far to order fabric swatches.  Then realized he procrastinated so late, he couldn’t do the custom ones.  *sigh*

The worst part was my brother, not a groomsman, but was walking me down the aisle, was going to match them.  He is a big guy who works constantly and it was like pulling teeth to get him measured for his tux originally.  He is in another city so my mom had to arrange it all.  Then my mom had to tackle him to get measurements for the custom suit.  And now my poor mom, armed with dozens of measurements, is now off on a search for a suit for him since the rental place, this late in the game, doesn’t have a tuxedo that will fit him for that date.  *sigh*  He’ll be happier in a suit, but it is so frustrating. 

I *think* my Fiance has now decided on tuxedos, but don’t quote me on that. 

This whole thing has taken longer than finding my dress and both bridesmaid dresses!


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