(Closed) Difficulty choosing a wedding date 1/2 rant 1/2 advice needed

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Sparkle_Bee:  hmm thats hard. I think I would do what I want to do. My Fiance and I just booked our venue tonight and I am praying the church is available or idk what I am going to do, but I was also going back and forth because so many people were telling me dates NOT to do because of this and that based on THEIR schedule. But honestly its your and your fiances wedding so I would do what YOU GUYS want, not what other want.  Plus I could be wrong but if your cousin really wanted to be a bridesmaid and knew you were going to be getting married, I would have thought she would of told you the dates she would not be home for this trip My own opinion tho, would be to do the 9/15 date because I like the fall and will be having a fall wedding 🙂 Plus you wont have to worry about sweating in your dress, August can still be pretty hot!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Sparkle_Bee:  Ouch. That is tough. My sister recently became pregnant and is due just days before my wedding, so I know how tough it is to decide a date when someone may not be in attendance.

I’m guessing all the prior dates are booked? Aug 4? July 28?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@bella731:  +1 about the hot dress scenario!

I think what you need is a little perspective here… This sounds more emotional than logical because in my mind, I don’t care that you’re going to be out of town for this one year, I want the anniversary of my marriage to be on August 18th forever and always ISP I’d contine with my plans.

BUT 

I also love September (I got married in Sept last year!)

did you know June & September are the most popular wedding months? I hve reason to believe This is due to August & July being popular for summer vacations (obviously!) and way too hot for a dressed up affair such as a wedding….

I thought about the sunset & etc too when booking my wedding day in Sept and timed my ceremony & etc accordingly. It’s gonna be fabulous and I think you’ll find that it’s still lovely and warm and summery in September because the end of summer is actually the Autumn equinox which is usually Septembef 20th or 21st…

 

all in all, I’d move the date to Sept 15th. It would mean a lot to her and you want her in the wedding and it’s something neither of you will ever forget. Check the farmers almanac for the temperature trends and sunset times to direct your timetable of the day and it will all be fine.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If you are worried abotu shorter days and heat.. I really don’t feel like the first half of Sept is all that different.  Do you have an outdoor venue?  If you have indoor ceremony and reception space, I wouldnt be concerned with the few weeks difference.   But if it’s for other purposes.. it is a tough decision.  I actually planned our wedding around my time of the month.. so maybe that will sway you too?!  I dunno…. It’s tough to justify all of your dreams on a 12 year old girl…. but I know that you want her there too.  Maybe if you wait a date at the end of Aug will open up ad someone will cancel their date…  But you need to make you happy first and not try to cater to everyone else.  Pick your date and tell everyone that that was the only thing the venue had.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

In the last 2 years, I have attended more September weddings than all summer combined!! September is all the rage! All 4 of the weddings (Sept 18, Sept 10, Sept 8 and Sept 24) have all been warm to hot temperatures and sunny, gorgeous days. (I live in Toronto). Everyone thinks September and thinks fall but the 15th is still summer

You need to keep in mind that not having family members there will really put a damper on th months leading up to the wedding.  With all the wedding-related stress that you will have, this is the last thing you’re going to want to deal with.

The only downside to the wedding being in September is the school issue for all kids attending your wedding (I’m a teacher..this is what I think about).

If the venue is really what you love, then take the 15th!!

 

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Sparkle_Bee:  lol! I read 20 degrees and it took me a minute to realize Canada doesn’t use Farenheit.

I really wish the US used the metric system :/

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Sparkle_Bee:  Yeah see… haha!  I mentioned not having it for my wedding and someone was like well how will you know and i was like bc i planned it around it purposely! HAHA. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

12 year old > Bride

Makes perfect sense :/

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