My venue can only accomidate 200 people, so that is the absolute maximum we can have.Â It’s tricky since my mom seems to be inviting everyone she’s ever met…Â My brother was kind of a jerk for his wedding- our family had less than 20 people, his wife’s had over 100 of the guest list.Â My mom was really, really upset that cousins and stuff didn’t get invitations.Â So my mom is overcompensating when it comes to mine.Â
Anyways, I’m having a difficult time figuring out what to do in regards to inviting co-workers.Â I work at a small company (about 60 people, most of whom work in the warehouse).Â My department is pretty small and I really only work directly with two people most of the time, sometimes with a third person. It’s a small family owned business and I think it would be a nice gesture to invite the three owners.Â They go out of their way to make sure to treat all of their employees incredibly well and I think it would be nice to invite them.Â However, I think it would also be a nice gesture to invite the other people in my department.Â Â
Ideally, I’d just like to invite the three owners, the girl I work directly with, and my direct manager.Â I don’t know if it’s bad to exclude the third person I sometimes work directly with, but I don’t know him that well and it’s always a little awkward.Â Â
My only real worries stem from the fact that the company is very small and there are a lot of gossipy women.Â (One co-worker’s wife had twins and they went to visit the babies at the hospital just so they could talk about it for the next week).Â I don’t know if it will cause unneccesary drama if I invite just a small select few, or if the excuse of it being a small wedding is enough to deter any ill feelings.Â Â
But I also worry that it is rude not to invite the rest of the managers, even though they aren’t my managers per say.Â Â
I am probably overthinking this, since the wedding will be an hour and a half away and there won’t be any alcohol at the reception, which will probably keep most people at my work from even wanting to go in the first place.Â Â
So to sum it up into my questions:
1.Â Is it bad to only invite the owners, my manager, and the girl I work directly with?
2. Should I invite the guy I don’t talk to much and is kind of awkward (I worry he would be the only one from work who would come, because he seems like that kind of guy, and that would be extra awkward.)
3. Should I worry about the wrath of the chatty, gossipy women?
4. Would it be more prudent to just not invite anyone from work at all and give everyone the excuse of it being small and just really not having the space?