Digital STD

posted 10 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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663 posts
Busy bee

I sent out our save the dates digitally; and then was going to send the ‘proper’ invitations in the post. 

I’m very glad I did this in hindsight because the wedding got postponed and paper STDs would have been a waste of money. 

We were invited to an April 2020 wedding that got postponed to March 2021 and they have already re-issued their paper invites which seems risky to me! Our wedding is postponed to May 2021 and paper invites will not be going out at all unless we 100% know it’s going ahead as planned. 

Post # 3
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2800 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Yup, I did electronic save the dates – it was free, for one, and super easy as well.  I literally got a photo of the two of us, whacked a filter on it and added the text over the top.  Also basically my half of the guest list was in New Zealand, while we are in Australia, so postage would have been expensive too!  Didn’t get any negative comments.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I prefer digital. It’s 2020 – the whole world is digital. It’s a time saver for everyone (I actually find it’s a hassle to send a physical RSVP, even if it’s already stamped). 

Consider a handful of beautiful cards to send to elderly guests if you know they’ll have a hard time with the digital, but otherwise, I’m going fully digital!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

My only concern is that people would miss the email. My friend group (30s-40s) uses evites for parties/general get-togethers and you wouldn’t believe how many times we’re discussing an upcoming event and someone says “huh? I wasn’t invited to that” when they definitely were and just didn’t see the email. I get so much junk in my personal account that sometimes things get buried. I’m sure there are ways to solve/mitigate this issue, but just something to keep in mind!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I read the headline and thought maybe a digital STD was something you caught while FaceTime dating 🤪

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@katebluestone:  haha…. I went 😞 too! I thought somehow fingers where involved that lead to an STD and my brain was trying to decipher the ‘how?’!! 

Seriously the one time weddingbee didn’t change the STD automatically to ‘Save the Date’! This feature could have been useful in this situation! 

Thanks OP! Your post title gave  me a chuckle once I worked it all out 😊

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

We received one and it was just as effective as a mailed one although I could see how it gets overlooked. I wanted to do mailers because it’s something I liked so that’s what we did. Do what works best for you!

 

Post # 11
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681 posts
Busy bee

We used digital for our save the dates for our wedding 3 yrs ago, but then did paper invites. I didn’t want to waste the paper, plus it made the RSVP linking easier. I preferred online RSVPs because all of the info (meal choices, plus one’s etc.) goes straight into a spreadsheet. 

Also, when they RSVP’d on our wedding website, we had them put in their mailing address so we didn’t have to reach out to as many people individually for their addresses, which was really handy! 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

If you have a digital STD it’s time to install antivirus software on coochie.exe ASAP!

Post # 13
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Helper bee

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@hotdoglover:  Agree with this. 

I suppose the effectiveness has to do with your audience. For my wedding and my family personally, it wouldn’t have worked. I have a lot of old school aunts and uncles that do not check email and/or are not technically savvy. Not to mention some of my family would think it is rude and tacky, even if they got the email – again, old school. 

But, if your audience is more technically savvy, then I think this is a great idea! I personally wouldn’t mind getting one electronically, it would go straight on my calendar from there and I wouldn’t lose it as easy as a piece of paper. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2022

Try digital first round. Then after you filter through rvps. Send paper mail for the non responders. If you have to call the person to get address maybe you can simply get try shooting digital while on the phone, confirm receipt and no need for paper mail. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We sent digital invitations (didn’t bother with STDs at all, we just texted people who needed extra time eg people coming from abroad).

It was a problem for no-one. Most people also responded digitally, but we did get a few people who took the time to buy a card and accept that way, which was sweet. 

We did it for mostly environmental reasons, but also cost and efficiency. 

I love getting e-invites. I always lose the card. 

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