(Closed) Dilemma about bachelorette party?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MilenicaRodic:  Yes.  Invite her.  Who knows, she might decline.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I say invite her.  My SIL is not into partying or anything like that, but she came to the dinner portion of my bachelorette party then left before we really went out.  I think she was really happy to receive an invitation.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would invite her. It would show that you want to bond. She can decline if she isn’t into the plan of the evening, or only come to part. Maybe she will offer to be the Dirty Delete

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Don’t invite her! It sounds like you just want to hang out with your 4 best friends and let your hair down. You won’t offend her, and you’ll have many other opportunities to get to know her. Never invite someone to a party hoping she’ll say no, because she may say yes out of politeness and not have much fun anyway. I’m 30, and I would not be offended at not getting an invitation to my much younger brother’s fiancee’s bachelorette party with her close friends. 

If you want to bond with her, go do something just with her, like lunch or something she enjoys. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would invite her to dinner, but don’t mention anything about drinks or say ‘we might go dancing after’.  If everyone’s having fun, she’ll join you after and if it’s awkward she probably will just excuse herself after dinner.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Invite her. It doesn’t sound like you’re doing too much partying anyway. I don’t consider some drinks & dancing “partying”. And even ladies who are 33 enjoy drinks & dancing, and dinner!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

If you don’t think she’ll have fun, then don’t invite her.  It’s your wedding.  You can do what you want.  Including her the day before sounds like enough.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree, I would invite her. She will most likely decline, but even if she doesn’t, she knows its a bachelorette party so I doubt she would judge anything or think it was inappropriate (not that it sounds like you’d be doing anything for her to judge anyway ). She might even be more fun than you think 🙂 You two may not be “great friends” now because of your age difference, but 10 or 20 years from now, chances are you’ll be much closer – possible even closer than you are with any of your friends now. I always try to live by family first, unless there is a glaringly obvious issue, of course.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MilenicaRodic:  I would invite her!  She’s going to be your family. People wouldn’t consider me the “partying scene type” at this stage of my life (I’m in my early thirties) but that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy a good party when I attend one.  She just might surprise you.  Smile

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I feel like if you’re not that close to her you really don’t have to invite her. Just do what feels right for you.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would say invite her.. Family first ALWAYS no questions.  Maybe she will decline maybe she won’t.  But do you really want to create unwanted feelings between the 2 of you?  Don’t judge a book by its cover… make this an opportunity to make a bond and get to know you and your friends! 

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