Post # 1
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Wannabee
I am 21 years old and I’m getting married in July. Earlier today I was thinking about the bachelorette party and I am so confused. I want to invite my 2 best friends, my maid of honor, my brother’s girlfriend (we’re really close) and that’s it. I’m planning a few hours of eating, some drinks and dancing followed by late-night talks on my back porch until each of them goes their own way. I don’t want to invite my mother because she is really uptight and just the thought of me having a glass of wine gives her hives hahaha. My dilemma however is whether or not to invite my fiance’s sister who is 33 years old. She is not into the party scene at all and me and her talk sometimes but the age difference really stands in the way of us being “great friends”. I like her but I really don’t think she’ll have any fun with us 🙁 what should I do? Mind you my fiance and I will be having a party with friends and family the day before the bachelor-bachelorette parties where she will be present so would it be awfully rude not to invite her tomorrow night?
Post # 3
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Honey bee
@MilenicaRodic: Yes. Invite her. Who knows, she might decline.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
I say invite her. My SIL is not into partying or anything like that, but she came to the dinner portion of my bachelorette party then left before we really went out. I think she was really happy to receive an invitation.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
I would invite her. It would show that you want to bond. She can decline if she isn’t into the plan of the evening, or only come to part. Maybe she will offer to be the DD
Post # 6
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Helper bee
Don’t invite her! It sounds like you just want to hang out with your 4 best friends and let your hair down. You won’t offend her, and you’ll have many other opportunities to get to know her. Never invite someone to a party hoping she’ll say no, because she may say yes out of politeness and not have much fun anyway. I’m 30, and I would not be offended at not getting an invitation to my much younger brother’s fiancee’s bachelorette party with her close friends.
If you want to bond with her, go do something just with her, like lunch or something she enjoys.
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
I would invite her to dinner, but don’t mention anything about drinks or say ‘we might go dancing after’. If everyone’s having fun, she’ll join you after and if it’s awkward she probably will just excuse herself after dinner.
Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
Invite her. It doesn’t sound like you’re doing too much partying anyway. I don’t consider some drinks & dancing “partying”. And even ladies who are 33 enjoy drinks & dancing, and dinner!
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
If you don’t think she’ll have fun, then don’t invite her. It’s your wedding. You can do what you want. Including her the day before sounds like enough.
Post # 10
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Blushing bee
I agree, I would invite her. She will most likely decline, but even if she doesn’t, she knows its a bachelorette party so I doubt she would judge anything or think it was inappropriate (not that it sounds like you’d be doing anything for her to judge anyway ). She might even be more fun than you think 🙂 You two may not be “great friends” now because of your age difference, but 10 or 20 years from now, chances are you’ll be much closer – possible even closer than you are with any of your friends now. I always try to live by family first, unless there is a glaringly obvious issue, of course.
Post # 11
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Helper bee
@MilenicaRodic: I would invite her! She’s going to be your family. People wouldn’t consider me the “partying scene type” at this stage of my life (I’m in my early thirties) but that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy a good party when I attend one. She just might surprise you. 
Post # 12
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Helper bee
I feel like if you’re not that close to her you really don’t have to invite her. Just do what feels right for you.
Post # 13
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Blushing bee
I would say invite her.. Family first ALWAYS no questions. Maybe she will decline maybe she won’t. But do you really want to create unwanted feelings between the 2 of you? Don’t judge a book by its cover… make this an opportunity to make a bond and get to know you and your friends!