- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009
A little background: FH and I justed started a LDR 1 month ago, 1.5 hours away (I know not far by many standards) and with long work hours, we see each other only on the weekends (he works most weekends, and I drive up for the part he’s not working). I had eye surgery in the city where FH is, and have been off this week recuperating, seeing FH at night, but he has been working 12 hour days. We are trying to make new friends in the new city, and I had suggested we get a group of people together for an event on Friday, which we started to do. Oops- the event is on Saturday.
The dilemma is that Saturday night is my friend’s bachelorette party, which will NOT involve strippers or anything that FH and I aren’t comfortable with. This friend was a REALLY good friend of mine, until about three years ago, where we had a falling out (long story, but I put loyalty as extremely important in friendships, and she couldn’t). I later realized that the issue is that while she is well-intentioned, she just isn’t emotionally healthy enough to stand up for what is right. I struggled with whether to invite her to our wedding, and finally decided to invite her. She missed my shower/bachelorette party but came to the wedding. I missed her shower since it was the only day I could see FH. I found out that many people won’t be there due to being out of town.
So all that to get to the issue…do I leave FH Saturday to go the bachelorette party and spend Sunday getting my house in order so that my return to work is easier, or stay with FH, work on making new friends here, and get to spend some time with him Sunday, although not a lot since he starts working nights on Sunday night and will try to sleep some during the day. (I am inclined to do the bachelorette party, but FH is a LITTLE grumpy about this and he is more important to me, obviously).