(Closed) DILEMMA! Ceremony at church or reception venue? Pic included!

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Where should we have our ceremony?
    Church - where my parents, grandparents and aunt and uncle got married : (15 votes)
    54 %
    Reception Venue - romantic ceremony overlooking the snow-covered golf course : (13 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 4
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m voting for church wedding. I think there’s far too much family tradition and sentimentality from you that I really don’t think you should sway from your original instinct. I know the reception venue ceremony sounds just lovely, but if I had a “family heirloom” (can i call it that?) in a church, I would totally go with that.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL

    I think it comes down to is how you picture your wedding, can you see yourself walking down an aisle at the venue?(which sounds and looks beautiful) or is your heart really set on the church? your mom may be disapointed but at the end of the day its about you and your SO. also just my own advise thought…if its december what if it snows really hard? that 45 min commute from church to venue could take well over that especially in bad road conditions…it may be a good idea to have everything at one location

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think your FI’s feelings about where he wants to get married trump those of your parents and family. You and your Fiance need to decide what the two of you want – it’s your wedding and marriage. (As an out of town guest, 45 min. is a bit further than I’d like to drive).

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It’s a tough call but personally I’d go with having the ceremony at the reception venue, mainly because if my guests were uncomfortable with the drive, I’d feel really bad about putting them through it. A 15-minute drive, OK. But 45 minutes on unfamiliar roads in an unfamiliar city, I just couldn’t get fully on board with, especially if my fiance would be happier. Could you do a civil ceremony there, and a more intimate (immediate family only), less formal religious ceremony at the church the following week?

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Reception venue. 45 minutes is too far to drive. 

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Your families will understand.  They love you, and they will respect your choices.  You should make a decision that is right for you and your fiance.  It is your day, for the both of you.  You should do what feels right for the two of you… And, I have to admit, a 45 minute drive in the snow sounds like a bit of a pain in the a$$.  Sorry to say.

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    If neither of you are particularly religious, honestly that plus the distance would be more than enough for me to go with the golf course for the ceremony. The family tradition is wonderful, yes, but only if the two of you believe in it too. I understand how hard it must be to give up on that initial idea, of course, but just think- you hadn’t met your Fiance yet, maybe the golf course better fits you as a couple instead of you as a bride who happens to have a groom in the equation (not that I think you’re feeling like that, it’s just amybe it’s coming across like that a little to your FI?)

    Post # 12
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I can’t see the pictures 🙁

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I voted for the church wedding.  I myself am also a traditionalist.  Most of our guests will be from out of town, and will have to drive 45 min from the church to the reception hall.  I asked some people if they would mind, and all they said was “Just make sure I have enough time to get to the reception hall”.  Don’t worry about it. 🙂

    Post # 14
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Church wedding.  I think it adds elegance to a wedding, and plus what a nice tradition it would be to get married in the same church your family got married in =)

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