(Closed) Dilemma during holiday trip home

posted 6 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
2748 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Just be honest with them about the shortened timeline and the need to spend the majority of it with family. Leave the door open to be able to see each other if time permits but say that right now you can’t commit to anything and would hate to have to cancel on them. They should understand that and if not, well that’s on them and not you. 

Would it be possible to do a party/hangout and invite everyone to a bar or restaurant for one night?

Post # 4
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

These friends live in the area, right? They are not trying to pressure but genuinely want to see you. They are looking for direction from you. I would just pick one or two nights/days and tell them, SO and I will be here, on this day, please stop by! Maybe pick a bar or retaurant or diner, so many people can come, and plan to spend a night with everyone catching up. All the friends can show to the bar, and you can see them at the same time and mingle with all. Or pick two nights or a breakfast/brunch and invite all the friends. Or just an open house at your moms place or something where multiple people can show.

I wouldn’t spend time running all over, just let them know where you’ll be and let them come to you. Easiest way to do this is to mingle like groups, like friends/cousins so you can hit everyone at the same time. Good luck!

Post # 5
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I live internationally and do the same thing on a yearly basis. I try to section off a little friend time to see everyone together. When they ask to see you again, there’s nothing left to do but tell them it’s not possible. 

Post # 6
7685 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kerensa:  I agree. I have overseas-living friends who do this. They set a night, be it a cafe or someone’s house or whatever. On that night, their wider circle of friends can visit them. The date is put out well in advance (using facebook these days). If someone can’t be there that night, well too bad.

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