Post # 1
Recently I got rid of my Facebook to help me focus on other things. Of course all the engagement photos and announcements were a part of it and it’s actually been very helpful. HOWEVER, my SO always brings it up to me. I’m not on FB so he will be like “babe look at this proposal video! Isn’t that amazing!” Or “honey look at this engagement shoot they did, ours will be so much cooler” etc, etc. I’ll just take a quick look and say that’s great babe. Dont get me wrong I’m happy for people but it makes it kind of hard to not talk about it when it keeps coming up. I want to focus on other things instead of a proposal and just let it happen organically. I guess this was more of a vent than a question but how would you Bees handle it?
Post # 2
I would say… You seem pretty interested in proposals and what not, do you want to talk about our future?
I feel like when bees do the shut it up pact, it’s because their so’s are not receptive to talks about the future so they shut it up to stop the tension (yes I know this is a generalization, it’s just what I’ve gathered from the siup threads)
He’s the one bringing it up. It’s like he wants to talk about it but you are shutting it up to let it happen organically… whatever that means.
When he brings it up, talk about it.
Post # 3
I agree with PP. It almost sounds like he wants to talk with you about it and find out what you’d want for a proposal and whatnot, but you keep shutting down the conversation. Definitely talk to him about it the next time he brings it up. At least mention things like “i like that proposal, I didn’t like that. I would’ve done it this way…” so he can get an idea of what you want.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise
greybee : I agree; this seems like a fishing expedition to try and determine what kind of proposal you might want.
That being said, if you want him to stop, I’d just say “I’m sure I’ll love whatever you come up with when our time comes” whenever he does it. Eventually, he’ll get the hint.
Post # 5
Don’t get me wrong I’m super excited but the more it comes up the more I’m thinking about when it may happen!
Post # 6
So, why don’t you ask him if he’s planning on proposing any time soon?
Post # 7
I literally asked my husband if he was ever planning on proposing to me super boldly.. he did it 3 weeks later.. maybe he wants to be sure you will say yes, so he is dropping hints himself but you are acting distant cuz you dont want to make him think it’s something you are eagerly waiting on?
Post # 8
If your SO knew you were hoping for a proposal and had removed yourself from Facebook to focus on other things…then proceeded to bug you with proposal posts on FB etc. then I would say he is pulling a jerk move.
Not saying he is a jerk, but it is jerkish what he is doing…if my SO did that to me I would get irritated real quick and tell him to stop showing me and taunting me unless he had plans of his own.
It could be that he is planning to propose and as others have said is trying to get your reaction, but if he isn’t then I really don’t understand what he would get from it.
Post # 9
If he brings it up its fair game.
I agree with PP he is probably trying to get an idea of what you like. Only one way to find out. I think I like the first persons idea best.
Post # 10
Hey Bees. I know he is planning on proposing it’s just a matter of when. We have a huge trip coming up in the next couple months and he keep saying that it won’t be there because he knows it would be expected. I don’t think he is trying to make sure I will say yes because he already knows without a shadow of a doubt I am going to say hell yes. Love that guy I just don’t want to think about the proposal until it happens.
Post # 11
Well then you should tell him! Have a discussion about how everytime he brings it up that you expect it and that you would prefer to not be reminded of it until it is actually happening 😛