- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
My Future Mother-In-Law, Future Sister-In-Law and Future Brother-In-Law are coming to stay with FH and I this June for 2-3 weeks. We are getting married June 1, and they won’t be coming until the 8th at the earliest (they aren’t coming to our wedding – long story, slightly irrelevant to issue)… My brother is moving back to our city and we have offered that him and his dog move back in with us until he settles in and finds a place of his own. He will be here this Saturday, and we received a call just last night that FH’s family is planning to come see us.
When FH mentioned to his mother that my brother is moving in, she insisted that he and my furnephew not be living there when they are here to visit. I understand her concerns to a degree, as they are Muslim and FH’s sister is only 16. My FH is very “Canadian”, as my family is as well. Now, my brother is 30, and well, gay. So that posses no “threat” to her or her daughter. Maybe it is just me, but I am having a tough time wrapping my head around why my brother will have to move out – afterall it will be his home too (the dog will go to a friends house while they are here as that I can understand more).
We of course will be moving all alcohol and items of food with anything pork out of our house as a sign of respect to their culture/religion, but I feel if I ask my brother to move out it’s all one sided and they really are showing no respect for our lives and how we live it.
I am being unreasonable? Or is her request a little unreasonable?
A little background as to my hesitation to lay out the red carpet for FIL’s:
– FH and I move in together 2 years ago. One of his brothers moves in (20 yrs old) – doesn’t work, has random girls at the house, parties all the time, no help around the house,etc etc…. It was a nightmare, and FH and I felt like his parents.. FIL’s offered no support or help in any situation and just told us to deal with it, as they had no time to. We were responsible for him finacially in all aspects. We literally had to send him home to his parents after 6 months as he was reckless… at our expense of course (back to Libya)
– Future Father-In-Law has not even called to congratulate us on our engagement (been engaged for just over a year), we have sent gifts back home to them with family members and friends travelling to and from Libya to Canada, not ever a thank you, nothing.
– FIL’s have had and raised all 4 of their children in Canada, and brought them up very westernized. They lived here for 30 years, before moving back home 3 years ago.
Thanks bee’s for any help or insight you can give me at this time 🙂