Post # 1
Need input asap! I keep going back and forth on this issue.
I am mother of the bride. We are inviting my cousins and we are closer to the children of one family. All are age 18+. So one family is invited.
Here’s the dilemma. My other cousins children all ranging in age from 13-25 we are not close to…in fact have not even seen some of them over the years. If i add these children to the list it increases the invitees by an additional 6 people.
What do i do? Invites need to be mailed tomorrow…as they are late already.
any input is appreciated.
Post # 3
Well it depends on a lot of factors
- Are you paying for the majority of the wedding or are the bride and groom?
- How large is the wedding? Will 6 additional people really make a difference (i.e. 30 invited guests compared to 200 invited guests).
- Were cousins children invited on the groom’s side of the family?
- Is there space at the ceremony and reception if everyone shows up?
Post # 4
Great questions !!
I am paying for all wedding expenses
Wedding guest list is at roughly 195–Reception room can hold around 170.
I don’t believe the groom has invited any children of his cousins… However not positive.
Post # 5
I agree with Eva from above, and also, if you’re on the fence about inviting them then you probably shouldn’t. If you haven’t seen these children in a number of years, I’m assuming they won’t even expect an invite. Good luck!
Post # 6
We didn’t invite any children to our wedding. Just make sure that it is across the board (you aren’t inviting other children to the wedding).
Post # 7
Thanks for great words of wisdom! Keep them coming. As i mentioned in my original post…one cousin and his family (includes 4 kids ages 18+) are invited. We are closer to them so we wanted to invite them.
My other cousins are invited, however, we are not that close to them– and we have barely seen their children over the years at all. We really don’t feel connected to the kids (ages 13-25) which is why I feel it not necessary to invite them just for the sake of inviting ‘across the board.”
Post # 8
I went a different route. I will be inviting family who I actually talk to and that attend family gatherings. I didn’t automatically invite all cousins. Don’t feel obligated to invite them. I think that’s a justifiable drawing of the line.
Post # 9
Talishazwi you certainly make a lot of sense putting it that way. And you think that inviting my cousin with kids that i’m closer to. and then inviting my other cousins but not their kids because we aren’t close to them….is okay? I mean i don’t feel to invite for the sake of inviting is right either.
Post # 10
I think it’s fine to only invite the cousins you are closer too….especially since you are over your limit for the venue.
Post # 11
I think you’re correct…i will only ask those we are closest too. I’m feeling better about this now. Thanks so much!