(Closed) Dinner a must at a reception????

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We are having famly only at our ceremony (54 people), and then will have dinner at our reception venue with those guests. The rests of our guests were invited to arrive for a cocktail reception beginning at 7:30pm (after dinner is completely finished).  We are having a snack table with mints, nuts, cheese/bread/cracker tray, and homeade chips/dips.  Also having cake, and we are providing beer and wine.

None of our guests have said anything negative about the idea.  Most are planning to make a date night out of it themselves, have dinner out prior, and then head to the cocktail party and dance the night away with us.

 

EDIT: LGenz makes a good point, our invites pointed out that it was a cocktail reception only, so guest were aware that there would not be a full meal.

Post # 3
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Worker bee

If it is dinnertime, then you need to serve dinner. Otherwise move your reception to the afternoon, at which time you can get away with a dessert and punch reception.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

It depends on what time your reception is. At 6pm I would expect to be fed a meal. If the reception began at 8 and I was told ahead of time it was desserts only I would be ok with that.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I like this idea! But I strayed from it because I worried about alcohol and sugar being all that is consumed. You could maybe throw in some cheese and crackers and snack mixes to counter all that sugar. but I do agree on the timing UNLESS you state in your invitation ahead of time there won’t be a dinner so that people can eat something ahead of time.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Downtown 202

It’s your wedding – you can do whatever you want! I’ve been to dinner receptions, cake and punch only receptions … we did hors d’oeuvres instead of a meal. No one complained. 🙂

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I agree with

@hyena: It’s your wedding  so do whatever you would like to! 

 

I also think it’s perfectly fine if it’s starting later in the evening and says it’s a dessert buffet  or cocktail party something like that on the invitations. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think 7 pm is still dinnertime. There is nothing wrong with that type of reception, but keep it to mid afternoon. I would also be concerned about alcohol and sweets, with nothing more substantial.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

could you also offer something like a couple of salads and stuff for sandwiches – cold cuts, cheeses, etc maybe a few fruit & veggie trays so people have something other than sugar (what about diabetics?) to eat. 

And yes, if it’s dinner time I would expect something a little more substantial than just dessert. Sorry.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree, it’s all about timing and wording. Make sure it’s either mid-afternoon or post-dinner time and let people know that it’s cocktails and desserts. (But I would have some non-sweets available, like cheese)

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would LOVE a desserts only receptions because I have a sweet tooth bigger than my head. But I do agree that if you are having alcohol, that maybe something a little more substantial to soak up the alcohol! I dont mind the time, I eat earlier than 7pm anyways and If you are putting it on the invitation, then people will know to eat beforehand!

Post # 13
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Worker bee

Sorry, but a 7 pm dessert only reception is just not hospitable to your guests.  You should do it at like 2 or 3 PM.  If you want the dinner time reception, etiquette dictates you serve dinner food.  It is just rude to the guests to do otherwise (I think of the recent episode of Four Weddings where a bride had a dessert only reception at dinner time and the girls snuck out to order pizza delivered to the parking lot).  I mean, you *can* have a dessert reception at dinner time, but I would be prepared for when your guests clear out quickly to go get dinner.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think 7:30 pm or later is fine for dessert and cocktails, especially if you let people know so they have a chance to eat a meal beforehand. And I think those kinds of receptions are ideal when you’re having a private ceremony. 🙂

I second the people who suggested offering something not sugar. Maybe fruit and cheese and artisan breads? It would be simple to prepare yourselves ahead of time.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it’s completely fine as long as your guests are aware they will not be having dinner. Dinner time is different for everyone. We eat really early in my family, so it came as no surprise to some of our guests that we had food out and served at 5:30pm on the dot at our wedding! Other people are used to eating between 8-9 … so the timing is really your personal preference.

We’re having an at home reception (drinks and nibbles/cake only) at 7:30pm. We’ve made it known to everyone that it is just snacks and cake, and I don’t anticipate it to be a problem at all. Like a PP said, they will definitely have dinner before hand if they know they will not be fed a full meal at the reception.

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