(Closed) Dinner before or after dances?

posted 8 years ago in Music
Post # 3
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

This is totally not a stupid question! I think we’re doing dances AFTER dinner… mainly because we’re doing a choreographed first dance and I want it to kick off the dancing for the night. Set the mood.

Now I do choreograph first dances for a living and I must say lots of brides choose to do the dance right at their entrance BEFORE dinner but really everyone does it different! Some will also wait till after dinner to change into a reception dress to dance in that. Hope that helps!

Post # 4
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Eek! I haven’t decided on this yet. I’m looking forward to what others have to say. Though I am leaning toward what Habibah said about kicking off the dancing for the eve.

Post # 5
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Great question because my wedding is on August 15, 2010, yeah, less than two weeks and I don’t know. Aak! *running around crazily

Post # 6
2703 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

we just decided to do our first dance/cake cutting before dinner, then we’ll do our “games” with our friend MC, bouquet/garter toss after dinner… and start the dancing for the night off with our father/daugther & mother/son dances!

Post # 7
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

This is what im trying to figure out too!

Post # 8
1820 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We are doing half and half.  Because we are not having a DJ (we are using an iPod) to MC the reception, our DOC recommended doing our first dance right when we make our entrance.  So here is how ours will go:

Cocktail hour

B&G entrance

B&G First Dance

Salad course

FOB’s toast


FOB/B Dance

MOG/G Dance

Dancefloor open for reception

I have seen it done all different ways, but this worked for us.  Good luck!

Post # 9
7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

We’re only having the First Dance and this will be done when we make our Entrance.

Post # 10
539 posts
Busy bee

We are doing our first dance after we eat. But we are cutting our cake right after we are introduced.

Post # 11
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m glad you asked the question! I was wondering the same thing!

Post # 12
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@septcabride:  When are you doing cake cutting/serving?  I really like your flow of events.  I’m leaning towards something similar – but keep moving around B&G first dance to either right after our entrance or right before the parent dances.

Post # 13
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

As my uncle, who is also a priest and thus goes to a LOT of weddings told me recently at a wedding: don’t hold your guests hostage at the reception! His comment was about the fact that many weddings he attends have a nice cocktail hour with music, great appetizers, great drinks, etc. Then, when everyone has had a drink or two and is ready to have dinner the flow is thwarted by a string of dances and speeches. After dinner people are unsure as to whether or not they can start dancing and it makes hte first few dancers look awkward and out of place–especially if people start dancing before everyone is done eating!

Personally, I am debating on whether or not to even do a grand entrance. I would much rather be at the cocktail hour mingling with the guests and such and just let everything flow into prayer and dinner. Since we are doing a buffet, I am going to try to time it such that the first dance and the other dances take place once the last few tables have finished getting food and are well into their meals. This way the dances should be finished in plenty of time for everyone to be ready to get their groove on!

Post # 14
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We did not do dinner first and dances after… We did our first dance at the beginning (the only ‘required’ dance we did).

It so happened that people joined us for a couple more songs afterwards and then the 1st course was served. We danced again after the 1st course/ had the second course/ danced/ third course/ danced + the cake/ danced. …So a sandwich of sorts:) It ended up happening this way because we didn’t plan anything in particular. It’s true that the whole reception took a lot longer and we were lucky to have the hall till the next morning.

Post # 15
1820 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Oracle – I am sorry I can’t help you on that one because we aren’t having a cake!  We are just having a mini dessert buffet that will be available – with coffee – after dinner.  However, if I was doing a cake cutting I would probably get the dancing started about the FOB/B and MOG/G dances, and then interrupt after about an hour (depending on the length of your reception) for the cake cutting.

The important thing to think about re: cake cutting is the timing as it relates to your end time.  At most weddings (i.e. hometown, lots of local guests…), the cake cutting is the cue that it is okay to start leaving, so those that would leave on the earlier side (the elderly, people with kids they need to get home to, etc.) will wait until after cake cutting and then leave.

Post # 16
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

here is how we are doing ours:

B&G announced (7:45)

B&G first dance (7:50)

Father/daughter dance (7:55)

Mother/son dance (8:00)

dinner (8:05)

toasts while dinner is being eaten (8:15-8:35)

HORA!!! 8:40

dancing 8:45-10

cake cutting 10:05

more dancing 10:10-11:25

garter/bouquet 11:30

grand exit 11:45

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