Post # 1
We are having a cocktail hour while we have our pictures taken. I was just wondering after we have entered the reception do you do the first dance/parents dance etc. before or after dinner? Also when do you do toasts?
I hope this doesn’t sound stupid. I have been to a wedding before and I have seen it different ways but what do you prefer?
Post # 3
This is totally not a stupid question! I think we’re doing dances AFTER dinner… mainly because we’re doing a choreographed first dance and I want it to kick off the dancing for the night. Set the mood.
Now I do choreograph first dances for a living and I must say lots of brides choose to do the dance right at their entrance BEFORE dinner but really everyone does it different! Some will also wait till after dinner to change into a reception dress to dance in that. Hope that helps!
Post # 4
Eek! I haven’t decided on this yet. I’m looking forward to what others have to say. Though I am leaning toward what Habibah said about kicking off the dancing for the eve.
Post # 5
Great question because my wedding is on August 15, 2010, yeah, less than two weeks and I don’t know. Aak! *running around crazily
Post # 6
we just decided to do our first dance/cake cutting before dinner, then we’ll do our “games” with our friend MC, bouquet/garter toss after dinner… and start the dancing for the night off with our father/daugther & mother/son dances!
Post # 7
This is what im trying to figure out too!
Post # 8
We are doing half and half. Because we are not having a DJ (we are using an iPod) to MC the reception, our DOC recommended doing our first dance right when we make our entrance. So here is how ours will go:
B&G First Dance
Dancefloor open for reception
I have seen it done all different ways, but this worked for us. Good luck!
Post # 9
We’re only having the First Dance and this will be done when we make our Entrance.
Post # 10
We are doing our first dance after we eat. But we are cutting our cake right after we are introduced.
Post # 11
I’m glad you asked the question! I was wondering the same thing!
Post # 12
@septcabride: When are you doing cake cutting/serving? I really like your flow of events. I’m leaning towards something similar – but keep moving around B&G first dance to either right after our entrance or right before the parent dances.
Post # 13
As my uncle, who is also a priest and thus goes to a LOT of weddings told me recently at a wedding: don’t hold your guests hostage at the reception! His comment was about the fact that many weddings he attends have a nice cocktail hour with music, great appetizers, great drinks, etc. Then, when everyone has had a drink or two and is ready to have dinner the flow is thwarted by a string of dances and speeches. After dinner people are unsure as to whether or not they can start dancing and it makes hte first few dancers look awkward and out of place–especially if people start dancing before everyone is done eating!
Personally, I am debating on whether or not to even do a grand entrance. I would much rather be at the cocktail hour mingling with the guests and such and just let everything flow into prayer and dinner. Since we are doing a buffet, I am going to try to time it such that the first dance and the other dances take place once the last few tables have finished getting food and are well into their meals. This way the dances should be finished in plenty of time for everyone to be ready to get their groove on!
Post # 14
We did not do dinner first and dances after… We did our first dance at the beginning (the only ‘required’ dance we did).
It so happened that people joined us for a couple more songs afterwards and then the 1st course was served. We danced again after the 1st course/ had the second course/ danced/ third course/ danced + the cake/ danced. …So a sandwich of sorts:) It ended up happening this way because we didn’t plan anything in particular. It’s true that the whole reception took a lot longer and we were lucky to have the hall till the next morning.
Post # 15
@Oracle – I am sorry I can’t help you on that one because we aren’t having a cake! We are just having a mini dessert buffet that will be available – with coffee – after dinner. However, if I was doing a cake cutting I would probably get the dancing started about the FOB/B and MOG/G dances, and then interrupt after about an hour (depending on the length of your reception) for the cake cutting.
The important thing to think about re: cake cutting is the timing as it relates to your end time. At most weddings (i.e. hometown, lots of local guests…), the cake cutting is the cue that it is okay to start leaving, so those that would leave on the earlier side (the elderly, people with kids they need to get home to, etc.) will wait until after cake cutting and then leave.
Post # 16
here is how we are doing ours:
B&G announced (7:45)
B&G first dance (7:50)
Father/daughter dance (7:55)
Mother/son dance (8:00)
toasts while dinner is being eaten (8:15-8:35)
cake cutting 10:05
more dancing 10:10-11:25
grand exit 11:45