Post # 62
@leenh78: i like buffets, with the exception of the following situations:
1) formal wedding
2) long lines/lack of organization
3) food doesnt get replaced and im last in line so theres barely any food
these have all happened to me. if the wedding is semi-formal or casual, they’re fine, as long as the lines are short and organized and the food stays replenished and warm!
Post # 63
I’m not really a fan of plated dinners, honestly. Every time I’ve been to a plated event, I’m staring at the servers like a starving animal, hoping they come to my table and not the one next to me. Inevitably someone at your table gets served first, and then they have to wait with the food in front of them. You can’t get up from your table, since your plate might disappear, or they might not give you the next course. (I accept that not everyone is as rabidly obsessed with food as I am, and I’d be thrilled if you’re giving me any sort of food at all at your wedding)
I’d rather go hunt my own food, chat with people in line, get to see all of the options, and come and go as I please.
That said, we’re doing family-style since my mother is anti-buffet.
Post # 64
also, at our venue, buffet actually costs more
than a plated meal. their justification for it is that they actually end up serving WAY more food when they have a buffet than when they do plated or family-style meals. so it worked out in our favor.
Post # 66
+1 we are doing family style as well.
Post # 67
We had a buffet and it went wonderfully! I felt it was easier and more appropriate for our wedding style.
Post # 68
I’m always at the last table. They say it’s random, but I think I’m just always at the “unimportant’ table. (Most weddings I’ve attended are cousins I’m not close to).
I also don’t like so many people handling the food. It grosses me out a little.
However, the last wedding I was at wasn’t a buffet and I didn’t like the food, so in that case, a buffet is nice so I can choose what to eat.
Post # 69
People don’t like buffets because so often they are poorly executed: long lines, food getting cold, food not being replenished quickly enough, etc.
If a buffet is well-executed, I prefer it over a seated dinner. More variety, more control over portion sizes. When I was planning my wedding and researching caterers, it was not uncommon for the buffet option to be more expensive than a plated meal, so I don’t perceive them as “cheap”.
Post # 70
# of plated meals where I’ve been served steamed green beans – 3
# of buffets where I’ve been served steamed green beans – 0
The numbers speak for themselves.
I honestly think that plated meals are the tacky ones! You’re paying SO MUCH for SERVICE and the food (pre frozen, meat centric, NASTY VEGGIES) is not great.
But I’ve been to buffet receptions with homemade Greek food, or deliiiiicious BBQ. Hell yeah. Now we’re talking.
Post # 71
We had a buffet at our wedding – if there were any complaints, I never heard.
As long as it’s free and I don’t care how it arrives in front of me (i.e. getting it myself vs. being set there by a server).
Does that make me sound tacky
Post # 72
I think it’s laughable that some of you write “I have never ever been to a plated dinner that I enjoyed”…chances are if it were a buffet you wouldn’t have enjoyed it either because guess what? It’s still the same caterer making the damn food. A good quality caterer would never dissapoint just like a 5 star chef.
A buffet is not as formal IMO that’s why many prefer a sit down meal. Even when I go out to dinner if we were going to a China Buffet vs. a Chinese sit-down restaurant it would depend on the occasion…one is a bit more formal than the other.
Personally, I prefer a sit-down meal because I feel there is enough buffet (at least at my wedding we had TONS and TONS of food) at the cocktail hour. Many of our guests are older and it’s not easy for them to get up and out of there chairs. Plus I wanted people dancing and not having to think about getting in line to get there food first (let’s be real this is just the way many people are).
We served a four course sit down dinner as well with so much food people were actually asking to bring their leftovers home (we had a variety of options for the main meal- Vegetarian, Rib Eye Steak, Chicken) in addition to a salmon as a second course + salad + another appetizer + desert and the food came out perfect, no lines or concerns there wouldn’t be enough..
To each there own!
Post # 73
I think in my region most people do the buffet lines. I’ve never seen a sit down plated reception before or heard of anyone doing one. So, I don’t see the hate for them in my area.
Post # 74
@leenh78: I don’t like buffets because there are always lines and I hate communal food. Generally we don’t eat out at all as we prefer to prepare our own meals, but I’d much rather a plated dinner that only I have touched (other than the people who prepared it, but you can’t reallt avoid that) rather than the germ infestation I always picture buffets to be. Perhaps it’s my own hang up (and it probably is), but I don’t like them.
Post # 75
I prefer buffets…as a vegetarian, it’s usually easier for me to find things to eat. 🙂
Post # 76
I don’t like buffets because I don’t like to carry my own food around at a wedding. I feel like weddings are formal affairs, and that a buffet takes away from the formality.