(Closed) Dinner buffets: Why all the hate?

posted 8 years ago in Food
Post # 78
4018 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’ve actually never been to a wedding that didn’t have a buffet or stations of some sort. Although I’m not engaged yet, when I envision my reception, I tend to think of having a buffet simply because that’s what I’m familiar with. I would ideally like an evening wedding, so it’s a matter of finding a caterer that has “fancier” food.  I like the idea of a plated dinner, but I’m just not sure how well it would go over where I live. 

Post # 79
3418 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

I have never been to a plated dinner where I have enjoyed the food. I love buffets

Post # 80
2478 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I like buffets. I don’t think of them as a cheap and tacky alternative. I’ve also eaten some dreadful plated meals at weddings and certainly there’s not much to commend waiting for an eternity to get served over standing in a quickly moving queue. 

However, this all depends on the quality of the buffet and for sure, if it looks like an Iceland Party Platter (I guess the US equivalent is probably Walmart) and worse, appears to have been sitting out for too long then I’ll just fill up on bread. There’s no way I’m touching reconstituted “chicken” nuggets or slightly slimy quiche. But a high quality, well served and varied buffet is a delicious alternative to the often rather dull plated meal.

Post # 81
698 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t mind buffets, but at our venue, the buffet was actually $9.00 PER PERSON more expensive than the 3 course plated meal!  Plus, we have a large guest list, and don’t have the space to set up buffet tables because of it.

Post # 82
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I HATE Buffets.

I am a klutz by nature. If I’m in heels and have to balance carrying a salad plate and an entree plate, yea, not going to happen. I also echo PP about germs and lines.

I just don’t find them classy. It also takes away time to talk to your tablemates.

For me, I’m having a black tie wedding, so of course it will be multi-course plated. And quite tasty. We just had our tasting a bit ago and it was amazing.

Post # 83
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Doing a buffet here too! I hate cold food and feel like every plaTed wedding dinner has been cold 🙁 also, with our venue we get more options for food. More hot food = no question for me!

Post # 84
679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I am having a buffet at my vow renewal. We are only having 25 guests and the venue has packages which include a buffet dinner with appetizers, red and white wine along with beer and champagne.

I would rather go to a wedding with a buffet than a pizza wedding. Having a menu consisting of only pizza is too informal for a wedding IMO. I would only use pizza as an appetizer rather than a main course.

Post # 85
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I LOVE buffets! I love variety but decided against it for the wedding. Same reasons people have mentioned; lines, feels informal, didn’t want guests walking up and down and around..thought that might break the flow of the evening

Post # 86
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t care for them because I am super impatient, especially when hungry, and it’s torture seeing other guests get food first. Haha. Sorry. 


Post # 87
741 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn

I prefer buffets and we are having a buffet. We are expecting about 40 guests so the line should run smoothly.


Post # 88
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We’re having a buffet because I’m a very picky eater and have NEVER enjoyed a plated dinner at a wedding, whereas with a buffet there are plenty of options for everyone. Our venue has a stellar reputation for the food and service, so I’m sure it will be coordinated to avoid some of the complaints people have with buffets. The soup and salad are being served individually prior to guests going to the buffet as well as the dessert, so really the guests will be choosing just the entree and sides from the buffet. 




Post # 89
7628 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I love buffets! And the thought that it’s always cheaper is so wrong. Most of the venues that we checked out were actually more expensive for the buffet! I do dislike waiting for food though at larger weddings so I guess for me it really depends on the size of the wedding.

Post # 90
2552 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

i like it. wedding venue plated food is disgusting 99% of the time.


Post # 91
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@leenh78:  We will be having a buffet dinner as well. It could be a Midwest thing..not sure, but I have only been to one wedding that was plated and served. It was filet mignon and I was not impressed with the temp or quality at all.

I would have much preferred to have gotten my meal from hot buffet with a choice.

I worked food service for many years…and if you don’t think the germs and sneezing coughing is happening in that kitchen where you plated dinners are happening …you are in for a rude awakening!!!


I am very proud of the buffet that we will be offering at our reception. I have no doubts as to whether our guests will be happy. My Fiance is very big into having quality food. So nothing but the best for our friends and family.

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