Post # 1
We’re having a Friday night wedding, and we’re Catholic (lengthy ceremony-we are having full mass). Originally I wanted to do an Hor d’oeuvres menu, assuming that by the time guests went to the reception it would be late, and they may have eaten a small something ahead of time in preperation. (Silly of me to assume that, but I guess I do it out of personal experience. I’ve eaten a small snack before a late wedding so that I’m not starving by the time we finally get to eat)
Working under this assumption, hor d’oeuvres sound like a good choice. BUT, if people are coming straig from work, out of town, etc I doubt they will have time to eat, and I know that Fiance and I will be STARVING by the time we get to finally grab a bite.
The cost wouldn’t be much different to do either. So $$ really isn’t the issue. I guess it boils down to etiquette.
What do you think? Full meal, or just the appetizers?
Post # 4
I think dinner for sure for the reasons you mentioned.
Post # 5
Definately have dinner.
Even if they ate something small before traveling, you have to figure that was probably 2 1/2 to 3 hours before the food at the reception. Also, even if you have “heavy” hor d’oeuvres, they never seem to fill people up like a dinner.
Post # 6
what time do the ceremony and reception start?
Post # 7
@kitzy:The ceremony will either be starting at 6:30 or 7:00pm (depending on if they have a rehearsal that Friday… we won’t know for sure until 6 months out). Reception immediately following.
Post # 8
In that case, definitely dinner. That’s around 8 pm for the reception to be starting and people will be hungry! I think hors d’oeuvres are fine for a fairly early reception, but that’s dinner time.
Post # 9
I think it depends also on what kind of entertainment you want to do after the food! If you want people to start partying right away, a long dinner might not be the best! But if that’s not a problem, and cost is not a problem, I’d go for the dinner.
In my experience at weddings you eat loads of food, so I always make sure I get there hungry! I think that if you decide to go for the hors d’oevres, you should let people know beforehand (in the invitation, or website, or tell them) so they know what to expect and prepare accordingly!
Post # 10
Yeah if people are coming right from work, then just the hors d’ovevres wouldn’t bee enough.
Post # 11
I voted for the full dinner. I know this depends on the region you’re from and what’s custom there – but one of my pet peeves is going to a wedding, especially one around a meal time, where they only have light hors d’oeuvres. I feel like it’s important to serve your guests a full meal.
Post # 12
Yeah, I agree. Most people will look forward to having dinner at that time of evening. Which is exactly why we are having a 2 o’clock wedd, with reception immediately following, with heavy hors d’eouvres….heavy. cocktail style is definitely the less expensive route than sitdown for us….
Post # 13
I think because it’s Friday Night a lot of people will be leaving work early, running home to change and going straight to your wedding, def full dinner.
If it was Saturday or Sunday I might lean more towards hors d’oeuvres.
Post # 14
Full dinner. A 6:30 or 7:00 start time puts your wedding right at prime dinnertime, so people will expect to be fed.
Post # 15
In your situation, I would say full dinner, but hors d’oeuvres are totally fine on a Friday night wedding as well.
Post # 16
I hate going to weddings where there are finger foods, and I have to go out to eat afterwards just to get full. So I am trying (key word trying) to have a full dinner. I understand finger food because it’s less expensive. But if you have the money I would choose the dinner so guests can actually be satisfied.