Post # 1
Typically my evening “big nights” involve netflix and my Fiance… but we’re going to a dinner party tonight! Hooray! I get to be a grownup!
However. I don’t really know the hostess well at all.
When we go to friends’ for dinner I bring a dish (unless they absolutely insist no) and a bottle of wine/pack of beer. But I feel wierd showing up with food tonight, because I offered and she said no, she had a menu planned, just bring whatever I like to dirnk.
So I have a bottle of wine. But I feel like I should bring something else?
Any thoughts/ideas for a hostessy gift? Or am I just letting my social awkwardness get the best of me and overthinking this?
Post # 3
I think a bottle of wine is totally acceptable, especially if you don’t know them…if it were me throwing the dinner party I think I would have it all planned to a T so extra wine would be all I’d hope to receive…
Post # 4
Just bring what she asked to bring. A wine is a hostess gift. Maybe bring two, and wrap them up nice. Maybe a nice bag or some ribbon or something.
As a hostess of a dinner party she has it all planned. You want to show appreciation, but not out shine her or go over the top since you do not know her incredibly well.
Post # 5
I think you’re ok with a bottle of wine. She said not to bring any food, and as long as you aren’t empty handed you should be ok.
Post # 7
@lefeymw: Good point. I guess I should have clarified – I feel like I should bring something other than what would be consumed that night. like a box of candy or something. But a second bottle of wine is a good thought.
Post # 8
Bring a nice bottle of wine. No need to bring a dish since she sounds like she will have everything under control. If you are adament about bringing something extra how about some flowers or a nice plant. However, I don’t think it is necessary.
Post # 9
Bring chocolates as a hostess gift. They’re yummy, she can pass them out after dinner or keep them for herself. But pick good chocolates, not the Pot of Gold kind.
Post # 10
I tend to go with a bottle of wine, especially when the host says not to bring anything. I figure they can always enjoy it another day – it doesn’t necessarily have to go with dinner. If I know the person at all, I might bring something else – like chocolate, a book, etc.
Post # 11
Bottle of wine is always nice. Everyone woman always loves flowers, but if you go that way, put them in a vase already so that she just has to put them on the table and it’s done. I love getting flowers but it always throws off my rhythm when I have to stop everything, unwrap them, cut the stems, find a vase, arrange them nicely, and then put them out.
Post # 12
I’d bring a bottle of wine to have with dinner (since she asked you to bring whatever you like to drink) and also a small hostess gift – fresh flowers, a scented candle, or pretty soaps or something. Or another bottle of wine meant for the hostess, or some fancy chocolates.
I definitely wouldn’t bring any sort of dish to share. 1) It may not go with the meal she’s planned, but she’ll feel obligated to serve it anyway. 2) It can imply that you don’t think she can handle it on her own.
Post # 13
Wine is great but do not expect that she will necessarily serve it for dinner. It may not go with her menu, or she may already have chosen her wines.
If the expectation is that she will serve it for dinner, it’s not really a gift.
If you want to take something else, you have some good suggestions. Flowers should already be arranged so she doesn’t have to scramble for a vase. Chocolates, a small bottle of ice wine or liqueur, are also great. Or send flowers the next day.
Post # 14
Thanks guys! Great points. I’m going to run out this afternoon and get a small box of nice chocolate. I don’t know if she’ll serve the wine I picked, so I just want to make sure there’s something else in case she does.