(Closed) Dinner Party Etiquette: Excluding a Spouse

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You’re right to be upset… you are a social unit, and should be treated as such.  I would decline invitations if my SO weren’t invited 🙁

Post # 4
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I’m with you. Girls’ nights are understandable. Otherwise, though, I think spouses should be seen as social units.

My best friend is almost the exact same way. It honestly hurts my feelings a little bit that she hasn’t really made any adjustments to the fact that I’m now married.

Post # 5
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Are SO’s in general not invited? Is it a group of all single people?  I can’t imagine telling Darling Husband that I was going to a party (not a girls night) and he wasn’t invited.  I’m sure he wouldn’t CARE, but it’s just so rude! If there are men and women going to the party, I wonder what the possible reason for purposly excluding a spouse would be??

Post # 6
3942 posts
Honey bee

If there are other husbands or significant others there, that is very rude.

Post # 8
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

That is definitely rude on your friends’ parts.  Unless it was a girls night (which your said it isn’t), spouses should absolutely be invited as a social unit.

Post # 9
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think you should just turn it down that simple. I think it sounds like a cool party and not something that she was purposely not inviting your husband too. I would go to something like that without Fi.

Post # 10
2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

You are not being unreasonable or old-fashioned.  Married couples are social units and have to be invited together to mixed-sex social events.

Post # 11
1749 posts
Bumble bee

@MBSyal:  I have been to parties like this before and it IS usually all women. When the next event happens another set of the women host the party. I don’t thik its rude, women have these parties often. I doubt that men will be present. Usually if men are present its more of a couples event. Relax and go to the party, its not a big deal. 

Post # 12
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If it’s not a girls night then I think it’s weird he wasn’t invited…however, if he’s going to be the only guy, I would tell him not to come and save him from a night that, ultimately, he likely won’t enjoy much (at least my Fiance wouldn’t)

Post # 13
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If other spouses are invited then yes I think its rude that your husband is not invited. I recently experienced something similar and was not happy about it

Post # 14
46606 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If it was a girls only night, she should have made that clear when she extended the invitation. It’s not rude to have a girls only dinner party, even on a weekend night. It became rude when she didn’t inform you prior to your accepting the invitation.

Post # 16
1749 posts
Bumble bee

@Miss Orchard:  Exactly, thats why I don’t think men would be there. Most men would be pissed to travel from house to house to eat parts of a meal. If men will be present, I doubt it that they would enjoy talking about recipes and who cooked what blah blah blah.

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