Dinner with DH's ex

posted 4 months ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Busy bee

delightfulplan :  I was thinking the same. And so many have commented how it’s the ex-wifes fault for the divorce. Really?! TWO sides to every story ladies! Actually 3. His, hers then the TRUTH. But I can guarantee that YOU weren’t there so I don’t see how you know what really went down. Just saying…..

Post # 32
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Busy bee

Just seen your update OP. Glad it went ok!

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Soon2BMrsFredericks :  Oh please. Some of us are more than knowledgeable of the facts surrounding our SO’s divorces. Facts are facts. And we’re the ones having to deal with the aftermath, including poor treatment on behalf of the ex-wife. 

Post # 35
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577 posts
Busy bee

wineosaur :  You know for a fact? No, you know your dh’s side. My ex husbands wife thinks she knows too, but guess what? She doesn’t know ALL THE FACTS, she wasn’t there!

All the blame on the ex wife is ridiculous. Sorry your butt hurt that your Darling Husband was married before you. Get it together ladies!

Post # 36
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2019 posts
Buzzing bee

Soon2BMrsFredericks :   Sorry your butt hurt that your Darling Husband was married before you. Get it together ladies!

 

Wow– looks like YOU are the one that this struck a nerve with! FACT: plenty of people DGAF if their partners were previously married. You don’t get some special “first wife” crown.

 

**also: “you’re”

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Soon2BMrsFredericks :  hahaha. If she cheated. She’s a cheater.  If she ran off with a guy…. she ran off with a guy. There’s no “two- sides” to cheating & leaving.

Post # 38
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Busy bee

jannigirl :  Yes, your right however you never really know the circumstances because it wasn’t your marriage. People that claim to know for a “fact” is bullshit. We like to think we know though. 

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

Be fake. Smile and nod a lot. It doesn’t mean you think what the ex and her mother did is good, it just means you aren’t going to call them out about it. 

It is extremely unlikely the subject will come up at the dinner table. If it does, keep your yap shut.

Post # 40
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Busy bee

psyche1978 :  well i will tip my hat of to you. i would never EVER in a gazillion million years ever be any where with my DH’s ex wife. I would rather have had a lunch and then she could have dinner or other way around (with now the graduation thing for instance). kids are big and must also realise that adult things are some times complicated if there is a stepmom that is being hated by the bitter ex wife.  

but good for you that you did it.  if I am in the same boat I can tell all the bees now already that I would insist that my Darling Husband and me take the graduating child to lunch and the mother can take them to dinner. it does not have to be the same function it is better to have double the love even if it is seperetaly

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