Post # 16
If it’s not going to hurt your financial future, I think you should enjoy the process. It is his wedding too and he should be able to enjoy it. I am 100% a believer in planning for the future, but it should not be to the detriment of the present. Since this is a one-time splurge, I’d say enjoy it.
What is of more importance is if you are on the same page financially otherwise. Have you discussed your financial plans and goals and priorities? If not you should do that know and make sure you can agree on plans, goals and priorities.
Even if you do not agree on every minute detail, both of you should come to an agreement that will help you maintain a sense of security and financial well-being.
Post # 17
the amount being spent isn’t so much an issue as (1) you aren’t in agreement and (2) you aren’t setting a budget and sticking with it. I don’t care if the budget is $15k or $150k you need to set it and stay within it not pay as you go and then realize “omg we spent THAT much?”. You’re going to have many more financial decisions in your marriage so the time to figure out how to deal with them is yesterday.