Disagreement about future son's name – 'inherited' first name

posted 2 years ago in Names
  • poll: What do you think about automatically naming a child after the other parent due to family tradition?
    I don't have a problem with this and would gladly do it : (23 votes)
    17 %
    I have actually done this with my children's names : (5 votes)
    4 %
    To hell with tradition, it needs to be a joint decision : (108 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 46
    3846 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Meh… I usually hate things like this (and am personally not a fan of passing down exact names at all), but if it was a tradition in his family and really important to my Darling Husband I think I would be okay with it. My best friend just had a boy and was in the same situation as you. Her husband is a “III”, and wanted his son to be the 4th. She eventually gave in. However, they all go exclusively by nicknames (the grandfather is “deuce” for “2,”, her husband is “Tripp” for “3”, and since the name is William my friend gave her son the nickname “Liam” and that’s what he goes by 100% of the time). She is totally fine with it now, and having a nickname she loved really helped. 

    Post # 47
    1756 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Since there is no child right now, could you just agree that he gets to name your first son and you get to name your first daughter?  Then at least you are each in an equal position here.  It may never even be an issue because you may not even have a son.  But personally, I would let him do it.  It is really important to him, and you don’t have a particular name that is that important to you.  There may be other issues in your future marriage that are extremely important to you, and hopefully he will yield to you on those.  If it were me, I would let it go and start brainstorming girls’ names.

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