(Closed) Disagreement over size of reception!!

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Compromise. Definitely compromise. You could have maybe 200 people and compromise on HOW you spend your money – as in, pick a budget you’re both comfortable with and stick to it, no matter how annoying and/or hard. You don’t want EITHER of you to resent your day for being “too” anything.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Both of you have good and valid points. I suggest figuring out how much of the budget you and your Fiance can contribute to the budget and get the dollar amounts from each set of parents as to how much they can contribute. Then make a list of your must haves with approximate costs for the wedding (project wedding has a good budget calculatore; it is what I have been using). With your budget, you should be able to figure out how many guests you can afford to invite and then decide the guest list accordingly. I think compromise on both of your parts are going to be crucial. You both need to make a guest list and then see how many are on it that are must invites, and go from there. Personally, I would not invite 350 to 400 people to my wedding, but I do understand the customs of your family, so I know that is typical for you. I also suggest teaching your Fiance about your customs and why they are important to you. That may help him to understand where you are coming from, but you are going to have to also understand where he is coming from. Marriage is about balance and compromise and planning a wedding is good practice for these.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2007

Im hispanic and understand what you mean.. I think you wedding day should be special.. Don’t go overboard about it tho.. We paid for most of if but alot of our family and friends wanted to be apart of it and help.. So they were our padrinos(godparents) our wedding I think was for about 200 people.. I understand what your Fiance is meaninf by saying you are going to be waisting alot of money.. I saved tons by making my own invitations, center pieces, party favors and the food.. my mother in law worry that it would not look classy since I was doing most of it.. But let me tell you she was soo happy and proud of me for doing such a good job.. I had to keep it my taste but also very traditional to please his family..

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2007

@Gigi03:You can save money in soo many things.. just don’t let minor arguments like this ruin your special momments.. It will all work out just talk with him and tell him you will meet him have way!!

Post # 10
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2007

If I can help you with anything let me know!! A soon as I figure out how to post pics on here I will post some of my party favors and center piece..

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

How much more special can you get than marrying the man you love, and have your friends/family show their support?

I don’t think there are 400 people out there who are sooooooo happy for you and your fiance. They just want the party/celebration. 🙂

Post # 12
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2007

@reason00:I agree that was my biggest concern.. I was careful who I invited but my husband’s family is soo huge and he has soo many friends.. We invited everyone we should it was invitation only that helped.. I thought 150 was soo much it ended up being around 200 including kids so it was not that bad.. No drama and had soo much fun..

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2007

Here some pictures..

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