(Closed) how to delete a topic?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
8437 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Um they threw you parties right? Then why are you being so ungrateful? The finance side of things is between the girls and your mum. If your mum has an issue with it then she needs to talk to the girls.

As adults guests shouldhave been responsible for their own transport. If you were staying at a hotel how hard was it for you to let them ask the conceirge order them a cab.

Stop blaming everyone else for what you choose to do and you will enjoy things much more. All of the things you have mentioned could have been handled by the people involved.

Post # 4
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

“Most of the girls had to drive or fly in for this and I was really appreciative of that.”

Focus on this  ^  


It sounds like you are the type of person who likes to be in control of situations and need things to be super organized.  Not everyone enjoys that or functions that way.  You can’t have it both ways – if you needed to be in control at all times, you could have planned your own events and just not had a shower.  You wanted them to throw these events for you – so kinda have to accept that its not going to be exactly how you want it.

People FLEW and DROVE from other states just to give you presents and party with you.  Just keep repeating that to yourself and realize how silly it is to be annoyed with them.

Post # 5
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@j_jaye:  +1

You’re mad that they offered to pay for your shower and your mom refused their money?  That sounds like an issue your mom needs to take up with them.  She could’ve easily said I’ll take care of it now and we can talk about it later.  you didn’t complain at all about the actual party, so I really don’t see an issue there.

Yes it’s frustrating she ordered the wrong size, but if she takes care of the alterations bill then I again don’t see an issue.

Assuming your guests are adults, they should’ve arranged their own transportation and could’ve easily done so- even at the last minute they could’ve used their cellphones.  I sincerely doubt several grown adults FORCED you to find them transportation and I’ve never heard of anyone arrangign transportation for a shower/bachelelorette on anyone’s behalf.

The only issue I see is one person at your bachelorette party.  She should’ve admitted she couldn’t afford the party; however, your Fiance never should’ve paid.  (no one had to throw you a party to begin with, but if you wanted one and she wasn’t planning it, you should’ve planned one yourself or approached her and the other BM’s about another plan (though again no one says they have to plan the bachelorette)). 

No one forced you to get her cot or extra blankets.  Again, that’s her responsibility not yours.  Either she would’ve slept on the floor or she would’ve made a call for the cot and made her own bed.

It sounds like the issue is what the pp said.  You like to be organized and in control, but you can’t blame others for not being the same way.  and no one is EVER obligated to throw you a party.  At the end of the day, you got 3 parties.  Be grateful, some people don’t get any.  I’m getting one bridal shower and I’m eternally grateful.  I’m not mad that people aren’t/can’t afford to throw me several parties on top of paying for dresses, shoes, etc.

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