(Closed) disappearing bridesmaids anyone??

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I will admit that I’m brutal for talking to people unless they’re on e-mail all day. 

Your bridesmaid might be one of those people and unless she can contact you via e-mail, it doesn’t happen.  I would think that b/c she’s one of your bridesmaids that she would be interested and willing to help, however you may have to call on her to give her a task and involve her further…

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Eep!! I realllllly hate talking on the phone… (I’m a texter/emailer) If I was expected to call the bride weekly, let alone daily.. I’d crack. I’m all for communicating, but that just seems overboard to me. They might just not be phone people!

Post # 6
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3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

The duties of a bridesmaid, unless otherwise agreed in advance, are to show up on the day, wearing whatever outfit you have decreed.  They are not obligated to communicate with your regularly, throw you parties, or anything else.

I have seen some brides doing a newsletter for the bridesmaids to keep them abreast of what is going on.  However, no one besides you will be as interested in your wedding as you are.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hahaha okay… well… then… I can totally see how you’d be disappointed. Honestly, I’m kind of annoying so if it was me I’d be reaching out to my BMs… Maybe a text like “hey I just bought xyz for the wedding, what do you think?”

… Unless you’re already doing that and they’re not responding, which is just lame!

Post # 8
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2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@2dBride: I’m choosing some of my closest friends to stand with me on my wedding. While of course, they are not obligated to communicate with me, I would hope – as some of my dearest friends – that they would want to communicate with me! I think the OP is just expressing her disappointment that her BMs are MIA, and not that they are shirking from their Bridesmaid or Best Man responsibilities!

Post # 9
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440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I hear ya.. I have 2 BM’s that wouldn’t even respond to emails/msgs (@2dBride – this was about their dresses) and another (MOH) that all of the sudden stopped talking to me about wedding stuff after a few months. Needless to say, the 2 still dont have their dresses & 1 actually is responding now so about 3 weeks ago I had to give them the ultimatium. Order a dress by the 12 of this month or they won’t be able to be in the wedding. At this point, I don’t care that much & have a back up plan if they both dont get dresses. Seriously, I have other things to worry about than getting my BM’s to get their dresses 5 weeks before the wedding!!

Hope they come around to you.. Fiance & I are planning the whole wedding so I have him to talk to about most of the stuff & another Maid/Matron of Honor that’s actually been there for me the whole time.

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