(Closed) Bridesmaid backed down. Disappointed :(

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3305 posts
Sugar bee

I would stop being friends with this person. She has been incredibly selfish and she will soon figure out how hard it is to have a baby with someone she barely knows.

Post # 5
9118 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Keep the money and sell the dress for the difference.

Your friend shouldn’t get money back for a dress you paid for and will be stuck with.

Post # 6
553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I hope you are smarter person than your friend. I am judging this person up and down but will try to just answer your questions. As nice as it would be to keep all of the money or use it to contribute to the big day, you should return it to her (just the amt. she paid you obviously). Irresponsible would be an understatement in her case, but she will definitely need that money for her new offspring. And, if I were you that would be the last time I talked to her.

Post # 7
228 posts
Helper bee

I would sell the dress, cover the difference between what you paid & what you get for it from her money, and return any money leftover to her. This girl sounds like a hot mess, it seems like to be her friend you’d have to be very understanding of that. But maybe since you don’t live near her you aren’t used to depending on her. I would just wait out some of the initial baby excitement and then sometime in the future mention how sad you are she has to miss your wedding (though that you understand of course.) Hopefully then when she’s a little calmer she will tell you that she is sad to miss it too. Though maybe not, since with this baby thing she sounds really selfish. 

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