- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
Let me preface this by saying this is a vent. I feel like an asshole typing this, and I really am not this spoiled, I swear.
I am apparently not having a shower and I am disappointed and hurt. The way this started is my aunt offered to throw my shower. She is in NY, I live in Maryland, but she was going to come down on a long weekend and do it. Awesome, so nice of her. So I sent her my BFF’s (our officiant) contact info, and FI’s mom. FI’s mom also apparently wanted to do something, got in touch with my mom about it. My mom said great, thanks so much, you guys should coordinate, and gave my aunt FI’s mom’s contact info. My aunt then apparently lost everyone’s info, I gave it to her again. All this was back in Oct/Nov, shower was supposed to be early January. My aunt has a history of making stuff all about her. She has, I swear to all that is holy, admitted herself twice to the psych hospital when someone else in the family was going through stuff. She’s also had her kids admitted to psych hospitals when other people in the family were having problems as a way of getting attention and avoiding helping other people (IE her elderly mother when aunt is the only one who lives in the state ) when they needed help. (I work with psych patients every day, I know what I am talking about. This is consensus within the family that she is very attention-seeking.) Anyway, my aunt made a big production about how she was going to organize this, she would coordinate everyone, she would take the lead, etc etc. FI’s mom stepped back and said ok. Aunt has done nothing. Apparently I am not having a shower. My mom has asked her about it and not gotten a straight answer, people keep asking me what is up with a shower and I have to tell them I don’t know or to talk to aunt, it’s really awkward. And I think my FMIL–who is awesome–is offended and hurt.
Side note: Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister who lives on the other side of the country, BMs and FI’s two sisters. One is unemployed and lives with their parents, the other is awesome and amazing but not the party planning type. So they were really never going to do it.
I’m just upset. Not about the presents, I don’t need presents. We’re registered for household stuff but it’s all upgrades of things we have and none of it is necessary. I was stupidly excited about having some girl time with my family and friends and being silly and giggly and playing stupid games. I try not to bore people with wedding stuff constantly (thank God for the ‘Bee!) so I really was excited to have a day that was all about the wedding, but more low key than the actual wedding and less debauched than a bachelor party. Mostly though, I am upset that something was promised and isn’t happening, upset that FI’s mom is offended and my aunt was rude to her, and upset that I keep havign to explain to people that I don’t know but I think nothing is happening. Sigh. Sorry, this is long. Please don’t flame me, I already feel like a brat for whining about this. Am I a colossal asshole?