Post # 1
This past weekend was wonderful. My fiance and I went down to his parents’ ranch, the location of our wedding, and had a lovely time tasting delicious catering food, picking an awesome place for the reception, and playing silly games while drinking our favorite wines. When we got back on Sunday night, my parents, who live very close to us, invited us over for dinner. My mom wanted to show us some pictures from my little brother’s first camping trip and as she was clicking through her albums, trying to find them, a picture of me in my wedding dress flashed on the screen. My fiance quickly turned his head, but I could tell he had seen it. Now, this would not really upset me because I am not a traditional sort of bride, but my fiance has been adament since we got engaged that he wanted to know absolutely nothing about my dress. He has talked about seeing me for the first time and the end of the aisle like it has been his dream forever. I feel like this image is now ruined for him and can’t bear wear this dress. Now this dress was cheap ($399 from David’s Bridal) and I never had that "dream dress" moment because I wanted something cheap and simple. They won’t let me return it, but I feel like I have to get another dress. What should I do???
Post # 3
Well, I honestly wouldn’t worry. There are dozens of posts from brides who barely remembered what their dresses looked like when they were delivered (3 – 4 months after trying and ordering the dress). The women at my bridal salon told me all kinds of stories about brides who swore the dress that came in wasn’t theirs at all – they take photos when you order, just for that reason. I knew my dress was my dress – but was convinced that the train was much longer than the one I had tried (even though it wasn’t).
Your Fiance got a fraction of a second glace at a photo of you in a big white dress. And he’s a guy – so unless he’s a fashion designer, he’s not going to remember the details of the dress a week from now, let alone months from now. If you asked him to describe the dress next week, he could probably barely do it. The worst thing you can do is dwell on it.
My Fiance knew exactly what my dress looked like, as I had shown him the catalogue photos. He still teared up when he actually saw me in the dress, on our wedding day. Part of that is the emotion of the day, part of it is the whole package – hair and makeup and bouquet and veil, along with the dress. You will look completely different in that dress on that day (to your Fiance and to everyone else) than you looked in the dressing room photo with no makeup and your hair in a ponytail. Trust me, you don’t need a new dress.
Post # 4
Seeing you after a day of shopping for gowns, under the fluorescent lights, on the platform at David’s, prior to alterations in NO WAY compares to you, done up on your wedding day (makeup, hair, flowers, veil, glowing) at the end of the aisle.
Tell him to put it out of his mind because he’ll be blown away by YOU in the dress, not the dress itself, on your wedding day.
That’s my honest opinion. I looked like crap in the pictures taken of me at David’s in my gown prior to the alterations. I was tired, it was late, my hair was a disaster after trying on so many gowns. The dress looked 100 times better on my wedding day- hemmed, with the right shoes, right undergarments, hair done, makeup on, etc.
If you don’t believe me, think about all the Bee posts when we first see them in their dress at fittings and compare those to their pro pics. There’s no contest!
Don’t let that little slip detract from your big reveal!
Post # 5
I forget who, but another bride had a similar thing happen so she made him look at a whole bunch of wedding dress pictures with the theory that after being flooded with so many there was no way he was going to remember any details about her dress.
Besides, Suzanno’s right. There’s no way he’s going to remember much of anything about it or be let down at all when he sees you on you big day.
Post # 6
My Fiance can’t remember what I wore out saturday night. You are a VERY lucky gal if he can remember what he saw for two seconds. I didn’t have the dream dress moment either. I think too much pressure is put on that.
Post # 7
Does he know that was for sure "the one?" I’m assuming so, but if not, tell him it was the runner up or something.
I like the idea of showing him a ton of dresses, hoping he’ll forget!
Post # 8
Just to add to what others have said he didn’t see how you are going to look in it that day with your makeup and hair and everything else. He probably wasn’t able to really get a good look, if you don’t feel like it was the one then you could try selling on here, ebay or craigslist if you find something that you like more. But don’t worry about it, once he sees you that day he will forget he ever saw a small photo.