- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
I’m so angry, hurt, disappointed, furious, sad … The list goes on & on!!!
When MrN & I 1sr discussed postponing the wedding we told my parents 1st (was my birthday so we were going to their place) & my dad saw how upset I was (I’m a daddy’s girl) so even though he can’t afford to give us money for the weddi g he offered to ask the bank if he could extend his line of credit to loan us the money as long as we paid the minimum payments (we’d actually pay back double the minimum monthly), at 1st MrN said no thanks but he knew how much it meant to me to allow my da to at least try so we agreed but I suspected he wouldn’t get approved … Fast forward a week & as I suspected he was declined (doesn’t make enough) so we talked & said we’d postpone.
Meanwhile I had told MrN’s mom & sister the situation and they both seemed supportive but boy was I wrong!! Yesterday I happened to see some messages between his sister & mom and I’m truly shocked!
His sister said we shouldn’t have asked my dad for help because we are irresponsible with money (I’m really angry she said that because we were t irresponsible, we saved everything g, sacrificed doing things with friends even & then when we had enough money saved to pay the remainder of stuff our car needed immediate repairs ($4000) & then MrN was laid off, I was I’ll & off work for a bit so we ended up using all those savings … It makes me even more angry because she’s never been responsible with money, her parents paid for her schooling & when her Fiance & he couldnt save for their wedding his parents footed the whole bill, when they got thrown out of their apartment her parents bailed them out & allowed them to live in their rental house rent free & the list goes on) then his mom had said that we were waiting on my daddy to help us out Which offended me, it was like she was patronizing me .. At least my dad offered to try where as they have more money than my parents & havent offered a dime!
We originally were planning a Destination Wedding but cancelled because of their complaints & the. We’re planning a wedding we hated but it would make them happy but MrN got pissed @ their constant complaints & said screw that & we started planning a wedding WE wanted which pissed them off (it wasnt local to them, its local to us … We live 2.5 hours away from them).
So now we’ve decided to be responsible & postpone to have our wedding next June (vs this Sept) & his mom made a comment that they didn’t think it’d happen because we didn’t pay deposits well if she ever listened we did ‘ we’re losing $1300 by postponing!!
I told MrN last night (through tears) that I never wanted a big wedding (he knows that) but I agreed because he wanted it (he’s always been looked @ as the screw up so he wanted to shut everyone up I think), but now I just want to elope! Him & I + plus our Maid/Matron of Honor & her hubby & his Bridesmaid or Best Man & his wife (also a BMaid), go down south like we wanted & come home, have a party & surprise everyone by telling them we eloped!!! My parents would be upset but they’d understand, I even told MrN that we could do the legal ceremony here & my dad can still walk me down the aisle)
Sorry for typos, I posted from my iPhone.