Post # 1
We took our engagement photos three weeks ago. Prior to the photoshoot I expressed my worry about being a bigger girl and how that will translate in photos. She shared that I had nothing to worry about.
On the day of the shoot, I wore two outfits that I thought best complimented me and was excited. The photoshoot was fun and I determined the photos would be awesome! Atleast a few of the 300+ she took had to be wonderful, right?
She began editing and posting a few of them today and I am terribly disappointed. Not at her work, per se, but rather in how I look in most of them. I knew I was large, but I didnt know I was that heavy. I am alright with how my body looks in most of them, but I hate my double/triple chin!!My save the dates are half made and awaiting a photo… I fear there wont be any I like 🙁
Anyone else in this boat before?
Post # 3
I totally had the same worry as you – we had ours done recently and just got a sneak peak. I love the way they came out but my fiance doesn’t – he had the same thinking as you as he thought he looked “big”.
As for your photos – I think they are amazing and I think you are being too hard on yourself. You are gorgeous! I was trying to pick a favorite but I can’t – they are all wonderful! Try not to be so critical of yourself! Enjoy this amazing time in your life – as long as you are happy and healthy that is truly all that matters! 🙂
As for your Save-The-Date Cards – there’s gotta be ONE pic out of the hundreds that will turn out the way you like!
Post # 4
I hated my first set of engagement photos and had another set done with a friend of mine who is starting up a photography business. Part of it is about the photographer coaching you, but the other part is just about being comfortable with yourself.
You have lots of lovely photos that you can use. I like the one at your favorite spot in the park.
Post # 5
I think they look really good!
Just renember, you are your own worst critic. I also hated my epics.
Post # 6
Okay, my disclaimer is that I’m not necesarily considered “a bigger girl”, so I can’t speak from that perspective…
However, I totally wasn’t happy with my engagement photos either and for different reasons. But I think if you are not happy, I would talk to her and see what she can do to make the situation better. From what I’ve heard from most photographers, they just want their clients to be super happy and are generally willing to do what they can to make it better. Perhaps another shoot is in the works? Does your photographer have a lot of experience with women that are body conscious? For example, my boudoir photographer is (given her specialty) very good at posing people to minimize problem areas and maximize areas that the clients love.
In addition, I know you said that she’s editing them but is she editing them to actually change your appearance? Most photographers I’ve spoken to do some color correcting and some very minor touchup but they said they mostly leave the physical composition of things alone. They may use a soft lens or clever angling, but I think most said they don’t sit there and Photoshop every picture for physical appearances.
Candidly speaking, I actually think they’re overall pretty flattering, especially the first three. I know we are are own worst critics, but I genuinely think the first three look very nice. I think the B&W especially would be a cute STD. I wonder what it looked like in color.
Post # 7
I think once ive received all of them and if i am not happy at all i am likely to say something and try to work something out. I am my own worst critic of course 🙂
She isnt editing in terms of changing our appearences but the subtle edits in color and overall quality.
Post # 8
I just wanted to say that I think your photos came out nice! I love the one of you guys at your favorite spot! I also agree that you’re being too hard on yourself! I thought you looked beautiful.
Post # 9
I think you look gorgeous but this is the girl who hates taking pictures because I feel like I look huge and never good. But on a serious note, you look gorgeous and that man is looking at you with such love.
Post # 10
I know there are parts of my body I wasn’t pleased with when I got our photos back. It’s like you said “I am my own worst critic of course.” We all will do that when it comes to photos of ourselves. I personally like your photos. You guys look so happy! love it.
Post # 11
I love your pictures! You are absolutely glowing and full of love. I think that’s the most important thing to capture. I hope you can learn to see that instead of whatever flaws are so glaring to you right now.
My Fiance feels the same way about the sneak peak of our pics. I’m hoping when we get them all back he’ll find some that he likes. I know he might not be at his ideal weight that he set for himself right now, but I think he looks amazing. I love him exactly as he is. It breaks my heart that he would think badly of himself.
But that all said – if a second shoot is what feels right in your heart, go for it. What good are pictures you hate?
Post # 12
I felt exactly the same way. I loved our e-pics, but hated the way I looked in them. We were originally planning on incorporating them into our table numbers, but I didn’t like any of them enough to do that..sooo I don’t think they’re going to get used at all now lol. One good thing that came out of it was they motivated me even more to lose weight before my wedding.
I wouldn’t worry about it! Just think of it as a fun experience with your soon to be hubby, and a way that you got to get closer with your photographer before your big day! 🙂
Post # 13
Thank all of you for your kinds words of encouragement 🙂 they have made me feel much better and a little more patient for the rest of them! Like some of you said, it was a great experience and he and I really enjoyed it and of that’s the only thing that comes I on it, so be it 🙂
Post # 14
@linsoid: I just want to say that if you are truly unhappy, it might make you feel better to try out another photographer. You may find it’s not you, but their work that you don’t like in what you’re seeing.
Post # 15
I think they’re amazing and you look BEAUTIFUL! We’re always more critical on ourselves.
Post # 16
We are often our own worst critics. FWIW, I clicked on that link and thought, “What is she talking about? She doesn’t look big!”
Sometimes though- photos can show us what we don’t necessarily see when we look in the mirror. If you’re a little uncomfortable with your size, no photographer is going to be able to pose you in a way that makes you happier with your body. That truly has to come from you. Maybe this is a good kick in the pants to increase your pre-wedding workouts, or start that pre-wedding diet so that you can be happier with the girl in the pictures. Or, if you are 100% happy with how you look today, then relax and look forward to your big day. I thought your photos were beautiful, but if you don’t like how you look in them, it’s up to you to do something about it (and it’s not your photographers fault, although she may have some ideas for poses that will be most flattering)