- Ms. Stallion
- 6 years ago
Just need to vent a little. My best friend (MOH as well) is getting married a few months before me, and, at first, it was a lot of fun planning our weddings together. But, in the last few weeks the fun has been replaced with feelings of disappointment / sadness!
Since the day she was engaged (which was a few months before me), I have offered to help with anything and everything. Granted, she is not much of a DIY bride and doesn’t enjoy the creativity portion of wedding planning as much as me, but I think I have been a good friend helping whenever she needed anything.
For example, I came up with the idea for her Save-The-Date Cards and spent one night a week for 3 weeks, and a Saturday afternoon helping her create them! I really liked getting to help her, and thought it was a nice chance for us to spend some time together. I suggested that we spend one night a week helping each other with wedding projects, and she seemed pretty game for that. Well, I continued to help her for a few weeks on her projects, but last week she didn’t have any projects. She called me to say that she didn’t need any help, but I could stop by if I wanted. She didn’t bother asking me if I needed a hand with anything.
Since I seem to be enjoying the planning aspects a little more than her, any time I find a great deal / nice vendor, or project I think would work for her, I send it her way to save her some time. I’ve shared everything!
I also spent a weekend dress shopping with her. We went to a larger city about 4 hours away and had a great time together, and she did purchase a dress. As her Maid/Matron of Honor, I wouldn’t have missed that for the world.
I’m starting to feel though like this is a one-way street, and lately, her remarks have turned catty. First, she couldn’t make it when I went dress shopping. I understand that people have prior commitments but I got the feeling that she just couldn’t be bothered. Luckily, my other bridesmaid did come, and we had a fabulous weekend but I certainly missed not having my Maid/Matron of Honor there.
Secondly, not once has she offered to help with anything. I’ve told her several times about projects I am working on, but still she never offers to help. We only live a few streets away so it wouldn’t be a big deal for her to swing by and give me a hand occasionally. I certainly wouldn’t expect help ALL the time, but an offer at least once, would be very much appreciated. She doesn’t seem one bit excited for me, and it’s starting to sting a little.
So, I emailed her this morning asking if she had any projects she wanted help with next week. She said she didn’t, so I asked her if we could still get together as I …..“had two or three projects that were half-finished, and if we could cross one off the list that would be awesome!..”
When she wrote me back she said she would help, and then wrote “Wow, that’s a of projects. I certainly don’t have time to be worrying about all that.”
I’m at the point where I just want to quit talking about weddings with her / offering to help, and just let us both do our own thing!! Does anyone else feel disappointed by Maid/Matron of Honor lack of engagement??