(Closed) Disappointed in myself

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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1602 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m sorry to hear that.

I’m also waiting, and it honestly is getting so hard as we’re getting closer.

My advice would be to set incredibly strict guidelines for yourself. Now that you’ve gone that far it’ll be hard not to do it again, and you’re so close you might just find yourself saying “why not”.

I know that this probably isn’t much help but you’re only human, and we all make mistakes in our own eyes. Talk to your fiance about it, express your feelings, and know that the wait will be worth it.

Post # 5
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3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Sosoon2011: You can do it! We’re waiting (for 14 more days, eek!) I’m here for support, if you need me.

Post # 6
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1645 posts
Bumble bee

You know what? Ultimately–it’s ok. 

Post # 7
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5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Just ask for forgiveness and LET IT GO! Do NOT let the Devil condemn you!…. He’s a LIAR remember!. Walk in Grace and submit that BACK to God ask for His redemption TOGETHER WITH YOUR Fiance and let God work! God can redeem in an instant. Let Him cover your heart with His love and you can totally have that redeemed! 😉

*praying for you* You have the mind of Christ… tell that Devil to SHUT UP!

You have to scroll down to my reply but her you can see how good God really is in His redemption!

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/sex-during-engagement

Post # 10
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7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Don’t feel bad about what you and your passions were designed for.  That said:  I totally get the frustration at giving in….   

Don’t set yourself up for failure: ie – don’t spend the night, etc etc etc…..

YOU CAN BE STRONG TIL THE WEDDING DAY!!!  The end is in sight!

Post # 13
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139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

God forgives!

Post # 14
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sweetie… the most important thing you need to know is that God’s grace is upon you, no matter what. He doesn’t condemn us, for making mistakes, and your wedding night will be blessed, because you’ve chosen to be patient and wait for each other in the most precious way. 🙂

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m glad you’ve chosen to wait to do anything more until you are married.  It has very hard to resist the closer you get to marriage.  You start thinking about how soon it is, and sex tends to preoccupy the mind.  My Fiance and I chose to not even kiss until our wedding night, because we know many a couple who have chosen to and ended up going further than they had ever wanted to.  It is tempting, and a lot of times I just want to kiss him, but so far we’ve abstained.  I don’t know what I’d do if we actually lived in the same town!  I know it could be hard, but your Fiance and you might think of abstaining even from kissing for the time being.  It may help to ease the temptation in other areas, as well.  This all tends to be part of the same package.  When you do one, it makes it harder to not do others, but just remember that God is a very forgiving God.  We all fall.  What is important is that we take it to God and pick ourselves back up.  His blood covers us.

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