- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Yes I’m making a post complaining about a bridesmaid. I love my girls, don’t get me wrong, I’m just very disappointed in one of my bridesmaids lately. In her defense, she is in another wedding this summer, about 6 weeks before my wedding. But that has actually contributed to this feeling, as I feel like my wedding has taken a back seat.
This friend I’ve known since the day we were born, in fact, our moms were friends when they were pregnant. There were a couple times in our lives when we were on and off as we were living in different towns and when you’re a preteen without a license yet, it’s hard to get around. But we’ve always maintained communication, and have been exceptionally close since high school. In fact, the other wedding that is before mine I am invited to- it was one of her friends from high school but because we hung out so much, i got to be close with that girl as well.
Anyway, my friend lives in the city right now, and I know she doesn’t have the greatest job. So I offerred to buy the bridesmaid dresses and shoes. I know that they are tighter for cash than I am, and I thought it would help them out. The other wedding she is in the dress was $200. So I thought I was doing a good thing. And that maybe she could be involved in other, less expensive ways.
My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and hosting my shower and I have one other bridesmaid, who has never been in a wedding party before. Her finances are also tight, but according to my sister, has been really gung ho about everything and is helping plan games for the shower and ideas for the bachelorette. She also came with me to pick out dresses and has been open to talking about wedding details. Where as the other girl, whom I’ve known my whole life, hasn’t been in touch with my sister at all about wanting to help for the shower (despite my sister contacting her through email, and she’s also known my sister foreverrr) and I guess she slashed the original bachelorette party plan of going to the casino and splitting the cost of a hotel room 3 ways. So now my bachelorette will likely be at my sisters house, which is fine, I don’t need anything fancy. I just can’t help but feel disappointed.
She was able to find $200 for a dress for the other wedding, and the other bachelorette is going to be at a club in the city, which I know she didn’t plan as this other girl’s bridesmaid did, but I’m sure once there she’ll shell out quite a few bucks for drinks and such. I know it’s wrong to compare, but I can’t help but feel like I’m less valued to her. Thoughts?