Post # 1
We’re going to have our 5th anniversary in July. We have a 2 year old and will be trying to concieve again soon, so this summer seems ike the only time we’ll be able to take a trip for a long time.
We were originally thinking about a big week-long trip to Italy. Niether of us have even been to Europe and I’ve wanted to go my whole life.
But then husband’s job started having issues. We’re afraid he’s going to be laid off at just the time we were going to take the trip. So plans for a new baby and new house and big trip have been put on hold. We’re afraid of spending the money, and also he can’t take the time off. There’s a chance if he performs well enough, he’ll get to keep his job, and the anniversary falls at a critical time.
So it looks like if we’re lucky we’ll be able to take a weekend trip that will have to be in driving distance from where we live (Nashville). I’ve already been everywhere worth going to within 5 hours of here and didn’t love any of them enough to want to visit again. (His mom would watch our kid so it could be a real vacation either way.)
I’m so disappointed at not being able to take a dream trip that I’m afraid any trip we do take is going to be spoiled. I’m in a mood about the whole thing where until my mood changes, I’m going to hate every option anyone presents to me. I’m also really bad at getting out of this kind of mood. Maybe I’ve mostly just come here to complain. But I’d love any ideas for feeling better about this situation.
Post # 2
The first step to feeling better is to remind yourself that Italy will still be there on your 6th anniversary or your 16th or even some random week that isn’t an anniversary. Anniversaries don’t require big expensive plans in order to be special, and you can always see the world when your husband’s employment situation is not as tenuous. PS the only reason any more modest trip would be spoiled is if you let it. You can have just as good a time in Jacksonville as in Japan if you let yourself.
Post # 3
I’m sorry, but you need a massive attitude adjustment.
Post # 4
Awe man, i definitely empathize & that is a bummer!
But if you do a weekend trip, why are you limited to driving? Why can’t you fly somewhere & give yourself more options that way? I had a pretty simple weekend anniversary trip to DC a few weeks ago and it was honestly one of the best trips we ever took. Sometimes weekenders don’t appeal to me a whole lot but that trip was a good reminder that they can be as awesome as any trip.
Remember that Italy isn’t going anywhere, you’lol still make it there, just maybe not this summer.
Post # 5
I’m sorry, that’s always disappointing! But its funny how things always work out! Mr. 99 and I were up at a lovely B&B for our anniversary, and we left before breakfast because we missed our dogs!
You could always go to the Peabody, that’s in Nashville, its luxury hotel that for some reason has a parade of ducks run through the lobby twice a day!
Post # 6
Others might say you need an attitude adjustment, but you’re allowed to be bummed right now. Obviously you will get over it and your attitude will change, but right now it sucks and that’s ok.
I get where you’re coming from. I really wanted to take a “big” vacation this year but it doesn’t look like it’s going to be the best financial choice for us right now. Of course, we didn’t realize that until after I looked into places and got all excited. So yeah, initially the let down sucked but you’ll move past it. I’m sure there is something you can find for y’all to do and you’ll have a great time. Just take a few days to be bummed and then slap on a smile and get excited about your new plans.
Post # 7
I’m sorry – going through potential layoffs is very difficult. I don’t know about your DH’s employment situation but I have lived through 9 rounds of layoffs in a company that previously prided itself on not ever having laid anyone off. The best advice I can give to you is have 1 year of living expenses on hand in cash as quickly as you can. Other than that, layoffs are completely out of your control and as long as you have that living expense buffer in place, don’t put your life on hold. I seriously was distraught over the first round of layoffs, to the point of getting physically sick. By round 4 I realized that the layoffs are not based on an employees’ performance, skills or merit, just at the wrong position at the wrong time. I have said goodby to too many talented, dedicated colleagues who did nothing to deserve being let go and now realize that you can’t live your life in fear nor can I change the outcome. Keep living your life, go ahead with plans and find your joy. Hope that helps you, best wishes!
Post # 8
It has to be within driving distance because that’s cheaper and it’s not worth it to fly for such a short trip.
We do have an emergency fund. We figure our emergency fund can pay the mortgage for a year and we can live off my salary if we cut some discretionary spending. Thanks for the supportive thoughts about the potential layoff. The layoffs in this case aren’t totally random and my husband does have some control over it. The company will be cutting the bottom X% of his position, so if he works hard enough he might be able to avoid it. And the timing of the anniversary is right before a crucial deadline.
I know I need an attitude adjustment. That’s easier said than done sometimes. Any specific advice on making that happen? Beyond platitudes about being grateful for what you have. And yes, some time will help.