(Closed) Disappointed that I know when my shower is….

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Sorry you won’t be surprised but try to avoid any details and at least those will surprise you.

I am having three showers (second one this weekend) including a Cinco de Mayo shower, so we are shower twins! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think people are just so busy nowadays that it’s difficult to truly surprise someone. But I’m sorry you’re upset. Just focus on enjoying the love from a party thrown in your honor ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve never had a surprise not even my engagement. I was crossing my fingers for a surprise shower but it turns out I just don’t get a shower at all… =( I don’t get a bachelorette party unless I throw it myself either… see, things could be worse- lol.

Post # 7
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I didn’t know showers were suppose to be a surprise.

Post # 8
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@AJester2:  I also did not realize that showers were supposed to be a surprise… so I’m right there with you.

Post # 9
674 posts
Busy bee

@P2TheDoodle: I’m with the two of you. I didn’t know they were supposed to be kept secret, either. Every bride I’ve known well enough to discuss this kind of stuff with in real life always knew when their showers would be.

I guess I can’t fathom feeling disappointed if friends and family care enough about me to arrange with my boss to get off of work, throw me a party, and give me gifts. Unless that comes along with being tortured by sitting on a chair of rusty nails the entire party or something, it seems tough to be disappointed by any of that.

Post # 10
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I LOVE surprises too but was so glad my shower was not a surprise. I was really glad I could pick out the outfit I wanted to wear and look forward to the day. It was still a surprise how they decorated the room, what food we ate and all the gifts.  

Post # 11
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I didn’t realize showers were supposed to be a surprise either. I can’t even imagine how stressful it would be to my BMs trying to plan a shower without me knowing about it. I wouldn’t even want them to try.

Post # 12
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I kinda had to know when my shower is since I have to fly there. The best part is being able to have my makeup done (free at sephora since I need to buy new foundation for the wedding anyways) and getting to pick a really cute dress for the whole thing. Plus this way you can know what to get for the host (if you know whos hosting it).

Post # 14
1856 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’ve never heard of a surprise wedding shower either.

@beachchicbride:  I’m sorry you feel disappointed because you were hoping it would be a surprise. It’s okay to feel a bit let down when you were really hoping things would be different than they are – I think most people can say they’ve felt like that about something along the way. Surprises can be a lot of fun. Try not to let it get you too down, though. You have family and friends who love you so much that they’re doing this for you, and lots of the details will be a lovely surprise.

Post # 15
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have never been to a “surprise” bridal shower. I am not having a shower. I am sure it will be fun anyway.

Post # 16
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m not having a shower either. Maybe you should think about volunteering somewhere to make you feel more grounded. Wedding planning can really make you lose perspective on life.

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