(Closed) Disappointed with engagement pictures :(

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
1186 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think the more you look at them you might come to like them, we are also our own worst critics! 

when i first got my wedding pics back I felt like I looked like a whale in the pictures and was humiliated, but I looked at them more and more and realized I was being an idiot!

Post # 3
713 posts
Busy bee

I’d suggest putting them away for a few weeks and then going back to look at them after you’ve had some time away. Often our first impressions of things like this aren’t great because we half expect them to turn out badly, so of course the first thing we see are flaws. Maybe some time and distance will do you some good!

Post # 4
3045 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

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loveisbrewing :  I’m sure you’re being hard on yourself and look beautiful to everyone else. 🙂 I don’t like taking photos nor am I photogenic so I understand how it is to look at pics and pick apart every minor flaw. Depending on how hard I’m smiling my eyes may disappear altogether! Like your Fiance mine was only agreeing to engagement photos for me and I felt his attitude might show through in photos plus I didn’t think the extra expense was worth it so we’re excluding them from our package. There’s no law that says you have to use personal photos for STD’s if you honestly don’t care for them maybe find an alternative. We’re using a photo of penguins bowed into a heart shape for STD’s. But I think the more you look at them the better you’ll feel about them. And congrats on the 20lb loss! Thats major. 😀

Post # 5
2163 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

I thought I looked terrible in half of my photos and I was picking up on the smallest silliest details, but other people didn’t even notice and everyone said I was crazy, so the more I realized how much of a perfectionist I was being, I started to really enjoy them and used them on the save the dates and website.

Post # 6
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I totally can understand where you are coming from…I think I will feel the same way when the time comes. I know I will think I look big in photos even if I lose 20lbs, I just see myself that way in photos!! Like I think I look bigger in photos than I do in the mirror and it makes me wonder what I really look like…kind of scary. As you said they were part of your package so if you don’t love them, you shouldn’t feel like you have to use them for anything if you don’t love them. I agree with 

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concordbee that some time could help though, it might just be your initial reaction based on whatever your expectation was.

Post # 7
49 posts
  • Wedding: July 2016

Post the pictures?

I tend to hate the way I look in pictures too… I wouldn’t worry about it too much. Just remember not to go all squinty eyed for the wedding pictures! I have the same problem too, haha. 

Post # 8
535 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

A genuine smile is always better than those “I’m dead inside” half smile things when someone is trying not to squint.  If you look happy, I’m sure you look beautiful 🙂

Post # 10
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - The Meadows

It’s hard to be okay with photos when you don’t like the way you look. But congrats on losing 20lbs! If nothing else, this is something where you now know how to be a bit more comfortable in front of the camera. I think that even genuine smiles, while they might not be perfectly photogenic, they’re still your real emotions and that’s important. A friend of mine’s laugh is loud, infectious, and she knows that it’s not the most becoming when she does it. But those are some of our favorite photos from the day; because the happiness is genuine and true.

You don’t have to share anything. If you’re going to feel self conscious about it, don’t put yourself through it. You’re not required to do anything that makes you feel bad or uncomfortable.

Post # 11
4095 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

I agree with PP’s who said to give it a little time. I really didnt like mine when I first saw them. Thought i looked big and too posed… but the more I looked at them, I realized how beautiful they were. Now I love them…even though I’m not with H anymore! haha 

Post # 12
111 posts
Blushing bee

Wow I feel like I could have written the original post… I feel the same way… I don’t know what I’m going to do about it… what are you going to do?  I feel like my arms and legs look lumpy and weird and I think the style of my photographer is more raw and stylish rather than soft and airy so I might have picked the wrong person.  I don’t want to post mine either.  I’m sure you look beautiful but insecurities do exist and I’m not sure how I feel about paying a ton for photos I don’t want to show off… I’m eager to know what you might do.

Post # 13
2175 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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loveisbrewing :  Have you tried the mirror trick?  The human face is not symmetrical, and we only see ourselves reversed (in the mirror) so when you see a photo and you think “what the hell, I don’t look like that” you’re right, you don’t, you’re seeing yourself in reverse.  Sometimes if you hold the photo up to the mirror you’ll see the you you’re used to and like it better 🙂

Post # 15
1305 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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loveisbrewing :  Those pictures are lovely!!! It’s definitely your insecurities speaking, and WHERE is the chunky? You look beautiful and the bth of you look happy, any of these photos would look great as a Save the Date 🙂

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