(Closed) Disappointed with my engagement ring

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Honey bee

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Chicpeas:  Girl, you couldn’t be in a better place for halo inspiration. Just use the search feature, and about a million threads on halos will come up. I don’t have one. I’m a soliatire girl myself., but I am going to reset my heart shaped stone into a rose gold bezel. 

This site sells ering settings.  Halo

 

Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Don’t feel bad about not loving it.  You’re ranting on a chick blog, not to him, so it’s all good!  If you really don’t like it, definitely say something, but in a nice, non-ego hurting way (those guys sure know how to take things hard!).  Don’t comment on the size of the stone (guys and size….), but mention something about more from the setting.  I think PP are right about halos, or enhancer bands.  And I think he was spot on with getting a better quality stone- it will sparkle that much more!  Just be honest, it may be awkward at first, but if you’re looking at this ring for the rest of your life, the last thing you want to feel is regret or rensentment.

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Chicpeas:  its not about the ring. 

Post # 19
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would try to focus on the things that you like about your ring and on what it symbolizes. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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Chicpeas:  it’s confusing. In the OP, you say you had no input, total surprise, but here you talk about talking to the jeweler and deciding based on the coat of the setting to put the money back into your house. 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

If you don’t like it, then you don’t like it. In a perfect world, you would find the ring to be perfect and you will live happily ever after. I recommend being honest with him, as gently as possible. I would love the sentiment behind his offering, but you have to wear it for the next 60 years. 

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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Chicpeas:  I think you have gotten some good advice in this thread. I don’t know where you live but shane company has halo heads if you wanted to just switch that part of your ring. http://www.shaneco.com/Jewelry-Catalog/Product-Detail.aspx?X=41066073&ST=halo_head

I don’t know if there is any additional cost for workmanship to change out with your current ring head, etc., or if it is possible with your current ring, but something to consider. Maybe that way you will still have the ring that your Fiance proposed with, and the same stone, only different prongs and some additional bling 🙂

As other PPs have said, there are also some gorgeous ehhancer options out there too. 

Post # 26
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Helper bee

ungrateful

Post # 27
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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Chicpeas:  If you are thinking about resetting it in a halo, which I think is a good idea if you want something blingier with more finger coverage, then I think instead of assuming he needs to buy it for you, you should buy the new setting yourself. The new ring could be a part of each of you – he chose the center stone and bought it, you chose the setting and bought it – and would symbolize your willingness to enter into a partnership, IMO. I do think it is a bit ungrateful to expect him to immediately upgrade your ring right after proposing. Maybe get some blingy wedding bands (a stack perhaps?) or wait for an anniversary to upgrade your setting and concentrate on planning your wedding, buying a house, and being engaged! It’s exciting!

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You can talk to him as PPs have suggested, but only you know if his feelings would be hurt. If it were me, I would use this a chance to get an awesome stone-studded wedding band that would look odd with a super decorative e-ring, but will look great with a simple solitaire.

That way, you keep his original e-ring, but you still get the sparkle and bling you’d like. If the stone’s still not enough after that, maybe upgrade for a “big” anniversary year (5 or 10 perhaps).

Post # 29
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Newbee

You will be the one to wear it. You should love it. If your future husband cares about your opinion he will do what you want. It may hurt his feelings, but you can be very sensitive about it. I confessed my DH of my dislike of my orignal ering, and Fiance was sad that I didn’t like it, but in the end I have something I LOVE and want to show off and he is happy that I’m happy.

Some people prefer simple, some more elaborate. Some people are sentimental, some are more paticular. Some people take what they are given, some people tell others what they want. Neither is wrong!!!!! Both are okay!! Just because you know what you want, and what you prefer and what makes you happy, does not mean you’re ungrateful or a bad person. It means that you are intouch with your preferences. So, don’t feel bad because you recieved sometihng that you don’t prefer. That’s your prefrence and your opinion. And Opinions are like belly buttons, everyone has one.  

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Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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MrsYokiman:  why is it helpful to make this about you?

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