Post # 1
i originally started coming to these boards because it seemed the ladies gave great advice, especially with in law problem situations. I’ve had ongoing issues with FI’s immediate family for a while not accepting the wedding.
Now correct me if I’m wrong, but if I choose to change ages/names/dates out of my own personal preference of not wanting to be recognized, isn’t that acceptable?
Because rather than advice I’m mostly getting woman telling me that I must be hiding something, because I have changed dates/ages purposely to prevent being noticed, and to be honest I don’t understand how that should make a difference?
So what if we’ve only been together for 3 years vs. 5 years or vise versa? Is that less of a reason for them to accept me?
Women are going through my old posts to try to see what “flaws” they can find in my “stories” as they call it when it’s all f***ing truth.
Clearly I wouldn’t be in here asking for help if I didn’t need advice, I don’t have friends in similar situations. It’s disappointing that instead of help I’m mostly being critiqued and accused of being a fake or liar. if I knew why my in laws weren’t happy with us getting married, I wouldnt need to be on here asking for advice to begin with.
I do appreciate the people who do give advice, I’m just a little frustrated that I’m having to justify myself to multiple people.
and I really wish I could just delete this whole account but just learned you can’t. Great!
Post # 2
So don’t post. But making a post about having no desire to post is probably going to draw you more negative attention.
There is really no reason to lie about details. If you are leaving out names and not posting photos of yourself, chances are no one will recognize you.
Post # 3
I’ve been on WB for going on 8 years now, and I feel like the tone has changed somewhat since the early days. There are some lovely Bees on here who have given me great advice or have just been willing to let me vent, so this is in no way a knock against everyone. I have noticed, though, that there’s less tolerance for those of us who just need to get things off our chest, even when we clarify in our posts that we just need to vent. I also feel like there’s less tolerance when we ask questions. In other words, there’s more snap-judgments about why I’d be asking such a quesiton, rather than giving me the benefit of the doubt that I’m just looking for advice on a subject that might be new or uncomfortable for me.
I so value having WB as a resource, so I hope we can all be mindful that we’re here to help each other. Sure, we’ll debate, because we have strong opinions on subjects and a wide range of topics get brought up, but the underlying purpose of our interactions should be to keep this place as a resource and refuge.
That said, to those of you who have been kind, open, honest, direct, and helpful, I can’t thank you enough. I’ve had so many incidents in my life that have left me feeling at a loss, and being able to come here has done so much good.
Post # 4
I’m going to go ahead and close this thread add it violates our TOS which you can read about here:
Terms and Conditions of Service
“v. Please refrain from baiting. Baiting is the act of encouraging responses or replies in order to cause dissent or discord; to instigate participation in a negative way.”