(Closed) Disappointing Bridal Shower

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am sorry that your shower was not what you hoped it would be!!!!

And I really hope that your fiance is feeling better!!!!!!

Don’t let it take away from the excitement of your wedding – the shower and the wedding are two separate things and on your wedding day you get to marry the woman of your dreams!!!!!

*HUGS*

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

That’s bunk!  I think when your emotions cool down you should have a little sit-down with her and explain how you felt.  I think it’s especially important because there are more activities to come, and I think she needs to hear very clearly what the expectations are, because she doesn’t seem like the kind of person who is going to put in the effort without being guided.

Hugs.  I’m glad fiancee is feeling better, though!

Post # 5
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

firstly sending hugs because it must have been a horrible day – im so glad your Fiance is better and remember, there is nothing else more imporant

im sorry your friend didnt raise to the occasion – sometimes people are a bit clueless or dont really get excitable about these things as you had hoped.

 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I am so sorry to hear about your shower.  However, the good news is that this gives you an opportunity to address some things with your Maid/Matron of Honor b/f the big day.  I would also suggest that you take her out for coffee or tea and sit her down to express your feelings.  Then, tell her in a very tactful way that you have certain ideas about your wedding and how things should be and ask if she can and is willing to help.  Unfortunately, I think that lots of people don’t value each step of the wedding process as much as the bride – so we have to be vocal and upfront.  

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

Some people are just really inept hostesses/party planners!  They don’t realize that in order for a party to happen, someone actually has to PLAN it– all the work doesn’t get done by itself!  I’m sorry you had a disappointing day!  🙁

 

Post # 8
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3285 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

aww, i am so sorry this happened to you!  did she even apologize?

Post # 9
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129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Stage 6 Steiner Studios

what a terrible day! I’m so sorry you had an awkward shower. It’s totally understandable for you to feel bad and annoyed at your Maid/Matron of Honor. Has she been a Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaid before?

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Giving your Maid/Matron of Honor the benefit of the doubt, like latenite said, has she been in a wedding before?  I’m one of the last in my group to get married, and I’ve been a bridesmaid before, and now being on the other end, I see what errors I made and how totally frustrating I probably was!!  My best friend gave me a book of Bridesmaid or Best Man responsibilities when she asked me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, and due to financial issues I was a bad Bridesmaid or Best Man, and I regret it now!!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Glad the Fiance is doing better.  That does stink about the shower.  You shouldn’t have been involved in the planning or asked to help.

Just keep thinking about the wedding here in a few days!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

🙁 I’m sorry it wasn’t a fun day, but I’m glad your Fiance is doing better. Was she just dehydrated and overheated?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

God, I can only imagine!!! Glad she’s better!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Sorry to hear it went so poorly!!!  That is to bad that she wasn’t thinking more of you.  I hope your fiance is doing better!  Just enjoy the wedding day coming up and know it will be a blast:)

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