(Closed) Disappointing dress experience, what would you do?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m in a similar pickle–there’s a huge oonflict between my “simple, traditional” ideas and my dislike for “generic, strapless”.  I’ve found a lot of dresses that are flattering, but nothing that really that really wows me.

No constructive suggestions, just here to comiserate 🙂

Post # 4
1257 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think the wow moment does not happen to everyone. Shows like “Say Yes To The Dress” build up bride’s reactions. I do think that it can happen but I do not think it is necessary. I did not have a WOW! moment and start crying. I also think that you have time if your not getting married until 2014. There may be something that comes out later on that you love. There is no need to rush into getting something if you have plenty of time to look for something more unique and that fits your taste.

Post # 5
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Do you have any pictures of different styles that you like?  I would show the consultant all my pictures.  They might get a better idea of what you DO like if they can see it.  Maybe next time just take a few people with you.  Just keep on trying.  I know you will find something that you love! 

Post # 6
6221 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

That’s how I felt about a lot of dresses. For the record, even if you don’t have a moment, you can still find a dress you love, which it doesn’t sound at all like you have. This was my list for consultants, just so you can see what I mean:

  • Prefer to have straps


  • Nothing too trendy, but don’t want to be boring


  • No satin


  • No ruffles


  • No excessive allover beading


  • No shredding


  • No mermaids (have to be able to show off our dance lessons!)


  • Nothing too heavy


  • No plain A-lines


  • No feathers


  • No lingerie details (like cups)


  • Nothing empire


  • Must have a train that looks nice when bustled

Needless to say, they had a tough time with me. I ended up looking through a bunch of dress designers’ websites and tracking down gowns to try on. This is what I ended up with:

Post # 7
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it can be tough if you go shopping with lots of ideas of what you don’t want (cookie cutter, strapless, etc.), and not many ideas of what you actually like. Next time I’d bring photos of dresses you like so the consultants have a better starting point, because as you found out, unique doesn’t mean the same thing to everyone!

Post # 8
23 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013


Is that a pronovias?! That’s my dress too, you look gorgeous!

Post # 10
658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Where did you go in C-Bus? I went to Wendy’s and I didn’t have a great experience

Post # 11
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I looked aat literally 100s if not 1000s of pictures before I went shopping and only like one dress I found. I just always came back to it. I found shops in my area that carried the designer and then contacted them to see if they had the dress. only one shop did- oddly enough it was in my hometown.

I went to another shop first with just my mom and tried on about twelve dresses after goin  through the racks in our budget. none of them were better looking than the dress I found online but I definitely liked that style of dress the best.

I made an appointment at the shop in my hometown and my mom and best friend for 21 years came along. they pulled the dress and others that were a similar style. I tried the dress on that I’d been eyeing for about eight months and I knew it was  it!

My suggestion for you – take only a couple people whose opinion you trust. look online for styles/dresses you like but be open to other styles. at the first shop, the associate suggested several different styles to try on, even if I didn’t like the particular dress. you never know what style you might end up loving on you unless you try! after you determine a style you like, go back online and do a search for dresses like that. then find a few of your favorites in shops near you. this advice is of course assuming you don’t fall in love  with something at one of the earlier appointments.

don’t get frustrated! you will find something and luckily you have plenty of time!



Post # 12
1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

This might sound a little odd, but see if there are smaller places to shop or designers in your area that are willing to work with you.  Remember, this is your first store and it takes awhile to find a dress.  I think I went to 5 different shops before finding the dress and price I love.

Post # 13
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I live in Cincinnati and we have a large bridal district. It’s a 2 hour drive from Columbus. Maybe get a few girls together and may a day trip down here?? There are a lot of stores to choose from.

Yesterday, I went bridal shopping with my Maid/Matron of Honor for HER wedding dress. (I’m her Maid/Matron of Honor as well). She lives in Indianapolis and I felt the same about the stores there. Everything was generic cookie cutter. She finally fell in love with the La Spousa Mirra dress which was GORGEOUS – but has all the ruffles, etc that you like.

Maybe you could eliminate the things you don’t like – ruffles, etc. Stand firm with the consultant when you go dress shopping again. But like I said, there are a lot of options in Cincy.

Post # 14
9114 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I didn’t have a wow moment.  I can describe my face when wearing “the one” in an emoticon.


Seriously. I didn’t react. I was like, “Welp, okay. Lets buy this one.” The consultant I had asked me if I felt bridal. Not really. But… I don’t think anything really can make me feel bridal. I liked the dress, I liked how it looked on me, so I bought it.

I didn’t break down in tears, I didn’t freak out and dance around the store. I just go, “This is the one I like the best, so I’ll buy it.”

I think weddings in general have been overhyped to a point where women have unrealistic expectations of how it should go or how they should feel and thus they feel like they are missing something when the reality of it is all is, sometimes you just don’t pop like a little canister of fireworks.

Go with your gut. You may not have the “wow” reaction, but that doesn’t make your choice any less right.

Post # 15
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh, and no. I didn’t have that “OMG crying” moment. I agree with another bee. Shows like say yes to the dress make us think we should have this wow moment. I picked the one that had the features I liked and what I felt sexy in. That was it for me but I knew I didnt want to look at any more dresses.

Post # 16
946 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would do some research and find out what you do like or find unique. Print off the dresses you like and take them to a bridal salon or find salons that carry that designer. 

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