(Closed) Disappointing Proposal….New Perspective

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
9482 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@urbanpink:  First off, welcome to the hive.  I’m glad you joined us!  It’s always nice to see how we can all relate to one another in different situations. 

I wanted to congratulate you on your engagement.  I’m sorry it wasn’t your dream proposal, but now you can have your dream wedding!  Sometimes we have to remember that it takes guys a lot of time and thought going into the actual proposal.  I’m sure it could’ve been a million times better, but it was from the heart and he loves you!!  That’s definitely worth being happy and excited about.  =) 

Post # 4
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

okay…..has your now Fiance ever been that “prince charming type” that gets down on his knee?

My Fiance and I have been together almost 9 years before he asked…i knew, he tried to hide it but i knew…and we were at a fabulous steak house (I love steak) and he just plopped the ring box in front of me and asked me to marry him….i opened the box and the ring was HUGE….of course I said yes…we’ve shared our lives for 9 years, i love him and don’t wnat to live without him…BUT we are not PDA we want everyone to know people

people at work found out this week that I got engaged (we got engaged in december) because I brought in a cake that said it from a barbeque (i did not want to ea the whole thing so took it to work for people to eat…) …I’ve gotten a few congrats since then….

why are you not excited?  was it not as exciting as you thought?

Post # 5
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think that’s kind of a cool proposal! It took thought and time, not like my Fiance and I who just so happened to see a ring that I had always liked on clearance, then we figured we might as well buy it and get married. THAT’S not romantic. lol

Post # 6
707 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

He MADE you a video game?! That is awesome. I think it’s so sweet he used your story and special moments in it too! Personally, I think your proposal story is so unique and will be more fun to tell down the road than him just asking you over a fancy dinner! Congratulations!

Post # 7
1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013


Dude, that’s crazy awesome. And a LOT of work. I get that you’re not into video games (and I’m not either), but it’s A LOT of work to pull off what he did.

My Fiance is an Electrical Engineer and he proposed in bed. I’m super happy about my proposal, but yours is AMAZING. And again, I HATE gaming. I just realize the effort that goes into it.

Also, I’m not trying to be bitchy at all! Just try and appreciate the effort 🙂

Post # 9
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I actually think that is a ridiculously romantic and amazing proposal. He spent hours creating an entire video game recounting your history and making it perfect to propose to you. I understand proposal disappointment – I wasn’t surprised by mine and I know my sister basically showed my husband everything to do. I feel like if you are looking for something to be disappointed about it, it’s there. But I personally feel that this is an incredible proposal and you are lucky to have someone who would spend so much time and effort into making a personal and unique proposal. 

Welcome to the hive and happy planning 🙂

Be happy mon!

Post # 10
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Fiance woke me up from working a 12-hour 3rd shift with enough time to pop the question and send me back off to work for another 3rd shift. lol. NOT romantic but because he even had the nerve to do it made it wonderful.

Post # 11
789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow-I think your proposal was very cool. For him it was personal, he obviously put thought and effort into it and to be honest, I don’t know what else you could want.  I hope you never let him know you were disappointed. I guess I read about a lot of proposals and never have understood how women decide what should happen. If a man you love dearly asks you to marry him, does it really matter what the format of the question is? There will be so many more important times in your life that you can’t orchestrate but they will all have special meaning just the same. Congratulations to you both!

Post # 12
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Personally, I think a video game is pretty cool. It takes alot of work to do a video game and its something you can actually keep and show your kids some day.

Post # 14
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think its awesome, like everyone else said it sounds like a lot of hard work, time, and effort, I would think that qualfies as a dream proposal. It’s unique and perfect because it represents you guys specficly.

While there is nothing wrong with the standard fancy dinner, drop to one kneee and ask prosposal, it’s can be a bit generic. I think perhaps sometimes an image can get into our heads about what the “perfect” and “dreamlike” events are supposed to be like. Appreciate what you have, and appreciate the fact that your Fi chose a personal meanfuling way to express his love and ask you to spend the rest of your lives together. Rather then comparing it to what the media/cultural norms have influence us to think should happen.

Post # 15
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@urbanpink:  I wouldn’t worry about it. My super romantic Fiance did not propose in an incredibly romantic way other although it was in a very romantic spot. (handed me a ring box over dinner).  Some guys don’t like to go over the top with proposals, it feels weird.

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