Disappointing? Small Engagement Ring

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 46
Member
910 posts
Busy bee

ladyvk :  I’m sorry but this seems a ridiculous perspective to me! 

She doesn’t need to just be grateful that someone wants to marry her.

The fact that he is dismissing her opinion, regarding something she has said is important to her, is the issue!

Post # 47
Member
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

AnonBee2019 :  I agree. And OP has a beautiful ring. Not like he gave her a twist tie and said “here ya go!” He gave her a gorgeous diamond ring which can be upgraded in the future. The setting is what she wanted and it seems to me he didn’t buy the bigger diamond for a reason. That reason is something she’ll have to talk to her SO about. 

Post # 48
Member
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2020 - Round Rock, TX

Let me start by saying this ring is beautiful and looks great on your finger!! And congrats on the upcoming engagement 🙂

Now— I understand why you’re upset. I do not think you’re being materialistic. Of course engagement is about agreeing to be married, and it’s mot all about the ring. However, a ring is a symbol of it and is very important to some people and I don’t think anyone should feel bad about it. My issue with this is that he knew up front what ring you wanted, and got you something smaller even though money isn’t an issue, because “what is 0.5ct going to do that 0.3ct can’t.” You don’t need a reason for wanting a bigger stone. No one has a real reason for wanting one bigger aside from how it looks. He knew what you wanted, could have afforded it, but dismissed your wants because he thought it wasn’t necessary. I think this is something you should sit down and talk to him about before agreeing to be married. Not the ring itself necessarily, but about him caring about your wants and needs. 

Leave a comment


Find Amazing Vendors