Post # 1
Lately I’ve been so good when it comes to waiting..no pressure..no hurry.
But he’s had the ring for 3 months now and still no proposal. His mom keeps bugging me and telling me a different deadline and it’s starting to drive me a lil bonkers..
First, she said “during the holidays”. Which I interpreted as right after the holidays. But nope..nothing..nada. Last weekend we went on a 1 day getaway to a car show..he didnt even want to sleep there like we usually do and he only offered that we take a room right after I proceeded by telling him I’d pay for the restaurants (he paid the gas, drove there and paid for the tickets). Anywayyyyyyy..long story short, right before Saturday I got my nails done “just in case” lol But since I had booked the restaurant I just knew it wasn’t it.
When we got back, we immediately drove to my in laws for our weekly dinner and meet up. The men talked and BF’s mom took me aside and kept staring at my left hand and repeating : OMG I was SURE this was it! We were really expecting you guys to be engaged, etc.. My heart just completely melted and, even though she had absolutely no bad intentions and i love her, it really hurt.
Then she said : well, he told his father he’d do it by April. APRIL? Where in the world did April come from? What happened to during the holidays?? I’m at a loss..this wait is complete torture and making me a little bitter =( He apparently planned something VERY special..which I think will save him when it comes to this huge wait
I’m a little discouraged and I think I should just think about something else…What are your suggestions??
Anybody else a little furstrated by the wait and being constantly reminded that it DIDN’T happen yet??
Post # 3
OK, first off, I would suggest that if his mother says something again, as sweetly as you possibly can, tell her that you are very anxious and talking about it fills yo uwith anxiety. Say it in a nice way, not a biotchy one. Because her doing that is definitely not helpful.
Second, I found the BEST thing to do while waiting is to KEEP BUSY! Find something outside of your relationship that makes you happy- take a class, go out with girlfriends, learn a craft, whatever. Put your focus somewhere else. It will not only help you focus elsewhere, but it will show your soon to be Fiance that you are not totally wrapping yourself around him, and most men seem to hate it when women are solely focused on them, or the engagement.
Post # 4
I totally know how you feel. It’s especially torture when you KNOW he has the ring but for some reason you can’t fathom, he hasn’t proposed yet. All I can suggest is try to keep your mind occupied with something else as much as possible. I agree with the PP that you should nicely tell your SO’s mother to stop bringing it up.
I really hope you won’t have to wait until April! Good luck!
Post # 5
Your right, I need to keep busy doing other things and stop wondering when DBF will propose.
I’ll also talk to my mother-in-law to ask her to pls not talk about it anymore until it really does happen because it just causes more anxiety..which I don’t need! I’m sure she’ll understand.
Post # 6
I’m sure she will. Just tell her that you are having a hard time focusing on other things so you’d appreciate it if she wouldn’t bring it up and promise to tell her as soon as it happens!
Post # 7
I hope he is planning something very romantic and makes the wait seem like nothing!