(Closed) Disappointment and confusion

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
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Buzzing bee

@seattlemeg:

I’m sorry.  It is hard to know what the answer is.  But we are here.   Years ago, my husband (FI then) and I moved in together.  For a long time, my parents were angry with me, and they didn’t talk to me much. And like you I wasn’t a bad kid, but I wasn’t an easy teenager either.  I had my Fiance in the car, while I picked out and tried on my wedding dress all by myself.  Then I called my mom and asked her to meet with me and see it.-Well I was looking for that bonding time, and when she showed up, she had my aunt with her.  I was very disappointed that it was not just her and I but I didn’t want to say anything that would hurt my aunt.  Then my brother got married to somebody that ended up making it impossible to be close to my mom. (SIL was ALWAYS included) until we finally moved away.  (My mom and I were not really alike either). Then I finally had 10 years to build the type of relationship with my parents that I really wanted.  It took a lot of work-but it was worth it.  When they came to my house I made sure that we did things together that we could enjoy and bond over.  You can make a way to bond with them over time-you can find your way to make it happen, it might just not be now, on your wedding day-but maybe they will surprise you.  Just remember that they do love you.  But don’t let your opportunity pass.  I have very fond memories of having special times with my parents now, even though some earlier times were strained. Have a wonderful wedding day. Best Wishes.

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