(Closed) Disappointment without Bridezilla. Another one of THOSE Bridesmaids Posts.

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You are so much nicer than me, I would’ve kicked their butts out of the wedding way before now! Sorry bee! 🙁 It definitely shouldn’t be this difficult and you are not at all being a Bridezilla!! **hugs**

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Not a bridezilla at all.  Your sisters are acting like b****es.  And yes I think in a way you are enabling them by paying for everything and doing everything for them.  They want their make up and hair done?  Fine.  They can pay for it themselves.  You have been MORE than generous by paying for everything for them, and they have taken advantage of that generosity.  By all means still pay for the rest of your bridesmaids’ things if there are still things left to pay for, but I would cut them off from that luxury/perk.  They are completely disrespecting YOUR time and YOUR efforts by not simply trying on a dress when asked.  Honestly I would have them pay for alterations and hair and make up, and maybe even reimburse you for the dress itself.  You have been more than fair.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Ditto. No wise advice, but *hugs*. I might expect bridesmaids to act like this, but it’s so much worse when it’s your own sisters! Since they both live at home, does mom or dad have any pull? Maybe they can give them a stern talking to and point out how inconsiderate they are being? Sometimes hearing it from someone else helps it sink in a little better? Otherwise, I would tell them that they have to wear the dresses as is if they don’t get it in this weekend or they are out of the wedding. Sorry, I know I am not much help. I have wanted to kill my sisters more than once during this process, but now I am seeing it could be worse… 🙁

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

You are definitely not expecting too much. I planned my wedding and got married at 24! They can atleast get fitted for a dress that you bought and delivered, find ANY shoes, and walk up some stairs to find a piece of paper for you.

I think, as hard as it would be for me to not worry about it, I would probably just make them deal with the rest of the alterations/makeup & hair situations and not pay for anything else. If they don’t figure it out, their problem, they can’t be in the wedding.

But I must say that you are a better woman than I for putting up with their crap.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016

You are so not a bridezilla! It sounds like you have been bending over backwards to make them happy. You are not expecting to much, they just aren’t doing what they should as MOH’s or as sisters. They should both be ashamed! I wouldn’t worry about the dress alterations, if they don’t get them done they will look dumb and they will have no one to blame but themselves. You have done more than enough! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Not a bridezilla but they have been bridesmaidzillas!

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Sorry but your sisters walk all over you because you let them. You ran out buying all these shoe options for them? You are paying extra for their crazy alterations because they wouldn’t try on their dresses? Um. No. They are adults and they can find their own shoes and pay for mistakes they caused by being lazy. If not, they can be guests and you can have people who give a sh!t about you standing up with you at your wedding.

And why on earth were you helping your sister at her job? Or taking off work to see every sports game of theirs? They seem overly detached and totally uncaring but you seem extreme in the lengths you take to please and serve them. Neither is constructive to a healthy relationship 

And no you are not being a bridezilla because you want a little bit of respect and caring from your siblings

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

You are amazing,  I would have told them to talk a walk a long bloody time ago.  But it’s not to late. Tell them to get their shit together or they are out of the wedding.  Do not pay for their hair & makeup.  You have done enough.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I agree with a PP that you are allowing them to walk all over you.  If they couldn’t be bothered to buy a pair of shoes or try on a dress you literally put into their hands, they obviously don’t want the part and can come as guests.  That is the most obnoxious, unthoughtful behavior and I would not stand for it, especially from my own sister. 

Now with everything else falling apart, I’d say stand up for yourself and kick them out – they’ve already changed the dynamic of your relationship with them, so I doubt it’ll get much worse if you do.  You’ll have one less thing on your plate to stress about.  Good luck getting the rest squared away, it looks like you’re having a bad run right now!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Holy shit. It sounds like they don’t give two shits about you. I don’t know that I could invite them to the wedding if I was in your shoes and they treated me like that. Fuck that.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

You are far from a bridezilla and sounds like you have bent over backwards to try to work with your sisters. No offense but they sound like spoiled lazy little b****es. I would want to just boot them out of the wedding but sure the drama that would erupt from that is not even worth it. It sounds like you’ve got a lot going on and more important things to deal with then their pettiness. At this point I’d just not even worry about anything else when it comes to them, let them deal with it or figure it out on their own and if their there your big day then great if not their lose not yours. I hope everything works out for you and you have a great wedding. Just remember the only thing that matters in the end is your marrying the love of your life. 🙂 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Why isn’t your mother slapping your sisters in the back of head and telling them to grow the hell up?! After the dress drama I would have TOLD them they are no longer MOHs, they’re guests and can go get their own dresses, shoes, makeup and hair sorted or just not attend. An age gap between you and them, or their ages shouldn’t be an excuse for bratty behaviour. I don’t have any advice other than telling them to come as guests, which I’m aussiming you’lol say isn’t an option. But just think; if they’re acting like this BEFORE the wedding, how are they going to act AT the wedding..?

Post # 14
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Busy bee

They are selfish and entitled. Drop them as bridesmaids.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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moviegoer23:  Your sisters sound just terrible. 

You know what I would do?  I would just let it go and see what happens.  Tell them that it’s up to them to figure out the alterations and the shoes and they are own their own for the bill as well.  If they don’t like it or don’t get it done, they can attend as guests.  Wash your hands of it, they are being impossible.  You have enough to worry about.

It’s posts like this that make me feel like having bridesmaids (and certainly choosing dresses) should just totally go by the wayside.  It’s an expensive, stressful distraction.

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