Post # 1
My boyfriend of 10 years and I just got engaged. I’m extremely ecstatic, but the bump in the road comes with my family. My mother has never approved of our relationship, mainly due to her own marital issues and reflecting them onto us. I told my parents of the engagement and while my father said he was very happy, my mother of course was less than thrilled. I was wondering what advice others had with getting through this painful situation. Thanks!
Post # 3
Well, that kinda sucks. My advice would be to sit down with your mother, tell her that the two of you are really happy, and that you would really like her support. You said “less than thrilled”. What does that entail?
Post # 4
If he is truly good for you, you guys are meant to be together, and he has given her no reason to act like this (which I’m assuming all of these things are right) then just ignore her reactions. I know it’s important to you to have her be happy in this big stop in your life but if you are happy that’s all that REALLY REALLY matters. I’ve definately had a less then supportive family. So I know how you feel.
Post # 5
I think it’s only natural for women to desire the approval of their mothers. However, you also need to think about your own happiness.
Have a heart-to-heart alone with your mom and explain to her that you respect her opinion, but you would really love her support because this is the man you love and you feel that this is the direction you want your life to take. If that doesn’t work, at least you put yourself out there and you won’t have to wonder what would have happened if you had tried to talk to her. You need to focus on you and your fiance and your lives, not your mom’s. I know it’s hard; best of luck to you!