- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
I haven’t been around the boards much for a couple months. My mother had emergency quadruple bypass surgery and a lot of complications at the same time Mr. C’s father was diagnosed with cancer. So I haven’t been able to focus on anything wedding related, nor had the time until recently. Things have settled down a little. Mr. C’s dad is in treatment and has a good prognosis and my mom is finally home and improving.
The good thing is that both of us should have healthy parents at our wedding. However, the bad thing is that it’s impacted our budget in a huge way. I had to clean out my savings to keep my mom’s business going in her absence and while she wants to repay me, her hospital bills are beyond massive even with insurance. So our wedding budget has been reduced to Mr. C’s wedding savings and whatever I am able to scrape together in the next year.
After a day of crying about the wedding we can’t have, I decided to stop moping and instead focus on the wedding we can have. Long ago when we first got engaged, we thought of getting married in Ontario where we’ll be making our home and having a small wedding. Then we decided to go for something a bit larger in Vancouver where Mr. C is from. We’d planned on a baroque themed lavish bash for 50; but with our reduced budget we feel we can’t afford the posh venue we’d been about to sign for. Luckily this happened before we’d made a deposit and signed a contract! After a lot of research and trying to find alternatives, we’ve decided the sensible thing is to go somewhat to our original plan and make a few alterations.
We’re going to have the wedding in Ontario for 14-20 people and we’re going to shift to a vintage Edwardian/Victorian theme which we can bring in on a budget without compromising the asthetic thanks to finding an amazing historical venue at a great price and my mom is going to be sewing my gown to help cut costs – she has sewed formal gowns including her wedding gown and wedding party’s gowns for both of her weddings. Thanks to Mr. C’s parents timeshare, we’re going to be able to still have an awesome honeymoon – one week in NYC & one week in Vegas.
A part of me was sorry to let go of my initial dream but I think I’ll have a much better time on our wedding day with a few revisions and cutting the cost so we don’t end up with debt looming over us and I’m starting to feel excited about our new plans. By changing to a less expensive area with fewer people and shifting our theme we can have a beautiful wedding without compromising style and quality. I’m primarily sharing this so that if someone sees my earlier posts about getting married with a different theme and location, they’ll understand why they’re seeing posts from me about where things currently are.