Post # 1
“Sexual Underperception Bias”
“Women want to have sex more than their husbands or partners tend to believe, a new study says.”
. . .
“Over the course of three studies, experts . . . discovered that the men in the relationship would persistently underestimate how much sex their partner wanted.”
Post # 2
I have always said this. After awhile, men’s jokes/cracks/gripes about women not wanting sex and not thinking about sex get really old, and it has always irrationally upset me.
Probably because many women eventually wind up in situations where their male partners’ libidos tank for one reason or another, and then the women feel all sorts of emotionally messed up because, hey, society shoves the idea down our throats that our men always want it more than we do.
Along similar lines, though, wasn’t there some kind of a Twitter campaign awhile back where women shared their sexual escapades and appetites in order to make the point that they engage in similar behaviors as men? And a bunch of dudes lost their minds about it?
Post # 3
Shoudn’t this come down to communication so the guy doesn’t have to guess when and how much the lady wants it?
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE
My partner’s sex drive has always been higher than mine, and we are both aware of it. I agree with PP that it should be about communication. Every partner has needs, whether it be “more” or “less”. Both partners need to find a happy medium through communication of those needs. Some people (men and women) will have a higher drive than their partner, but I think the general trend that males have a higher drive usually is true.
Post # 5
I voted ‘often’, because he doesn’t anymore – he knows very well now! :p That being said, he did use to be surprised at how often I wanted it…
Post # 6
It’s a no-win situation as a woman, really. Don’t have sex and you’re a prude, but have too much and then you’re a slut. It really does boil down to communication, because a trend doesn’t hold true for everyone.
And maybe this is not as much of a contributing factor as I think, but I feel women are taught to present themselves as sexual without actually expressing desire and men aren’t at all. I say this because I formerly thought of myself as borderline asexual because I didn’t want to be intimate with my ex-FI that much, but he expected me to have a certain figure and dress well, look put together, and be ready to ‘receive’ him like a seasoned pornstar. Whereas he refused to shower more than once in a weekend and whined if he had to look even vaguely dressed up.
My current SO takes care of himself and is a sharp dresser, and I just can’t keep my hands off of him. So perhaps there are also some instances of mismatched expectations and general sexual incompatibility too.